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The Purpose Of My Money

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Shopping! Sigh. It can be fun but also so exhausting. I tried to steer clear of social media for most part of this four-day weekend to dodge the unlimited Sale updates and social media posts. My today's post is in continuation to my last post - Buy Nothing Day - as I got some feedback which gave me the idea to put this post together. 

So my fundamental principle around all kinds of shopping (clothes, home decor, electronics, beauty) is to differentiate between need and want. Do I 'need' it to make my life better and efficient OR do I 'want' it for one of the following reasons: 

  • it is being shoved in my face on all media outlets
  • retail therapy feels easier than to deal with my emotions
  • want to buy it for the sake of buying something new

This is not an easy exercise to do, especially as someone who is active on social media ... but it does help to keep me in check. 

How we choose to spend our money is our greatest power. We can steamroll any change, any policy, any law in to action by collectively changing our spending behavior. Contrary to what marketing would have us all believe my (and your!) money is not there to 'support' businesses (big or small) neither is it there to fix any emotional problems. It is earned by hard work, and is there to allow me to live my life in relative comfort and provide for basic necessities. 

However, I do love good things in life (bags, jewelry, shoes), but having this tough conversation with myself regularly, about my spending habits keeps me in check about how much of pampering and 'treating myself' is justified. I realize that this is subjective to each human and there is no set formula. I am committed to making intentional purchases and not let things I acquire define my worth. With that being said, one thing that has made my sartorial life stylish yet sustainable is the time I took to curate it.

Over the past decade I have written about my self-imposed shopping ban several times. 

Shopping Ban - Why? What? How?

Yes, I am a a sartorial blogger. And you can rarely shop my exact outfit.  

Why You Can't Buy What I Wear?

I have not shopped at a Fast Fashion outlet for as long as I can remember. If you find me wearing a high street brand, rest assured that those pieces are ages old when I didn't know better or are hand-me-downs or bought from a second-hand store. 

Where I Don't Shop And Why?

If you still have more questions about fashion, styling and/or maintaining the quality of clothes here is a post I did back in summer 2020 

All Fashion Related Questions Answered & More

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  1. Spot on!! Money is not there to support any businesses, it is to lead a decently comfortable life. Usually people are on one or the other extreme, either complete minimalists or out and out hoarders. Whatever happened to good old balance?!

    Very refreshing to see this from a long standing blogger - we need more sane voices like yours :)

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  2. Spot on!! Money is not there to support any businesses, it is to lead a decently comfortable life. Usually people are on one or the other extreme, either complete minimalists or out and out hoarders. Whatever happened to good old balance?!

    Very refreshing to see this from a long standing blogger - we need more sane voices like yours :)

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  3. I'm with you and I think from time to time it is okay to spend money on nice things but also be mindful on how the. money is being used and making sure it stays in your overall budget.

    www.rdsobsessions.com

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  4. I used to shop at places like F21, H&M, and Zara. I don't anymore, but that's really because I don't shop for clothes at all. I believe I bought 2 pieces this year. One was from a small business on Etsy, but the other was a dress from ASOS. I'm really just finding that my priorities have changed as to where I'd rather spend my money (#1 is food, lol).

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  5. The pandemic and working from home has totally changed my way I look at money! I used to buy things more often but now I'm more mindful of how I spend my money and staying within my budget.

    Rachel
    www.hello-her.com

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  6. I am glad you are opening up about spending habits especially since Black Friday sale just ended and Christmas is around the corner, we need to keep it in check and yes splurge a little as well

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  7. I tend to normally buy what I need only. Shopping is more a chore for me and one I often don't have time for. It's good to have a spending spree once in a while though.

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  8. Such a great perspective and necessary reminder for me for sure.

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  9. Reading your posts have helped me and this is another great post. I did shop but mindfully. I didnt buy for the sake of sales/ discount. I just picked things I thought I needed. I have not shopped fast fashion this year. Pat on my back. On my journey but I am slowly getting there.

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  10. I'm not a big online shopper, I seem to look but never buy. I am a natural no spend day fan!

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  11. In these tough times, especially economically for ordinary people, a retrospective like yours is the point of view you need to read.

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  12. Totally guilty of shopping way more than necessary, and my excuse is that it's my business and livelihood. Agree that balance is key and I'm always a work in progress! xoxo, Sarah

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  13. I have never had a hard time passing on sales or overspending but I do struggle with not spending enough or thinking that everything is a splurge. I have plenty of the necessities but I am learning to treat myself, not impulsively but I am enjoying the money that I work so hard for these days. Balance is something we can all relate to struggling with but it is nice to have room for improvement. Gives us something to work towards and I appreciate reading about others perspective. Thanks for sharing.

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  14. Great advice, and some useful things to keep in mind. thanks for sharing these.

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  15. I feel much the same way. I'm in-between total minimalist and extreme hoarder, lol

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  16. I shop all the time. I love it, but my bank account doesnt! I love this fresh and new perspective

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  17. Honestly, the pandemic has taught me how to live within my means and not overspend on things I don't need. I've treated myself maybe three times this whole year to something new for my closet but it's has really helped me take control of miscellaneous expenses.

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  18. I am in love with that pink sweater on you and the fabulous shoes! I am in need of some new clothes and will have to check these out.

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  19. Have reach a point of buying if only it's necessary but I still fall prey of retail therapy lol

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  20. At the point in life, I really only look at buying investment pieces. I can't do fast fashion anymore!

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  21. You raise important subjects and I appreciate that. Wrestling with them is helpful.

    The question of what we should "do" with our money is high on the list. As you note, we work hard to earn resources so they have real value. Squandering and not spending them wisely can't be excused. On the other hand, conventional ways of spending money is, as you say, often irrational (e.g., "supporting" businesses; trying to fill emotional holes).

    With great forethought and apprehension I experimented with something new last month. A friend of mine was in dire need: her car was turning into a sink-hole of money and she needs transportation to keep her job. I decided to -- and did -- buy her a new car. Now, I'm a generous person by nature but I've never done anything so extravagant before (for someone other than my partner). I wondered if it was wise. So far it's turning out to be a good choice. My friend now can stop losing money to car repairs, keep her job and maintain sanity. And I feel good about helping someone. Have you ever done anything similar?

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  22. Loved reading this! I used to shop wayyyyy too much, but I've learned in the past few years to only buy when I need to and to limit my shopping with each paycheck so I can save more and invest. Xx.

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  23. I guess, we are on the same boat! Beautiful article, gorgeous outfit as always ❤️

    Thans,
    Everything Enchanting

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  24. This is a good exercise! I don't actually shop too much but I did take advantage of black Friday because we just moved and needed some necessities (washer/dyer, etc) lol!

    Lizzie
    www.lizzieinlace.com

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  25. The over-share of sales/ deals can be so exhausting! Luckily I'm super in tune with spending habits and what I need vs want!

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  26. I've been way less interested in clothes this year compared to last and have been re-shopping my closet frequently!

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