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Pro And Cons Of Living In U.S.A.

London Reunion 2017

This year has been the most pivotal, as an immigrant in the United States. For one, this is the first time I was asked at least twenty times what I thought about living in the States. For all of ten years this question has not made it's way into my life. If ever it was only asked in reference to family, as they all live in India. I was not surprised to receive the questions, I was surprised that I didn't have a good answer for a long time. 

After much deliberation I decided to share my thoughts a few weeks back on my YouTube channel. You can check out the video below. Please note that my opinions are based on my own experiences and in no way am I trying to speak for someone else or stating that one country is better than the other. It is simply a matter of preference and your life goals. 



Here are few other questions that I have received on the topic: 

Why did you move to U.S.?
I fell in love with a man who was pursuing his Ph.D in U.S. and hence, after marriage I moved to live with him. 

Would you ever move back to India?
If given a choice I would prefer to live in U.S. I like my life here. I feel at peace. The city and the neighborhood I live in, is in-sync with the lifestyle I aspire to lead. I do not see any reason to change that.

Do you miss your family?
Honestly? Not really! I have been away from home since the age of 18. I stay in touch with everyone, thanks to technology. I do see them often. Everyone is busy in their lives and after a point it doesn't really matter where you stay. I would not see them any more than I do now, if I lived in another Indian city than the one they reside in. The only time I feel homesick is during the festivals and weddings. 

What are the pros and cons of living in U.S.?
This list would vary from person to person depending upon what you want from life. For me the pros are: social culture, financial etiquettes, lack of bureaucracy, sense of safety (as a woman), simpler lifestyle choices, less interference (from family, neighbors, the whole nine yards), and lots of personal space. The cons are: physical distance from India (long flights) and now the threat of racism (relatively). 

What are the pros and cons of living in India?
The pros (for me) would have to be: close to family, get to travel around India often, get to wear saree often, and be able to eat Indian mangoes and lychees (in summers). The cons however outweigh the pros for me (and I am already expecting some angry feedback from readers post reading this!): litter on the streets, eve-teasing and no sense of personal safety, poor social etiquettes and habits, shameless staring from both men and women, non-stop gossip and drama all around.

And re-stating something I mentioned to one of the readers - living abroad is definitely a mixed bag of emotions. At any instance I do not mean to imply that U.S. (or any other country) is better than India. My thoughts are derived from my experiences and from the perspective of what I want in life. No matter where we choose to live there will always be pro and cons. India is indeed beautiful and truly home (for me) but I am choosing to live in U.S. because I feel mentally at peace here.




  1. Thank you for sharing this. I love reading other perspectives and points of view. So glad you feel safe and enjoy being here. I hate reading when people don't like the US because they of t feel accepted. I like to think we are an accepting country. Beautiful post.

  2. This is such an interesting post! I am sure it is hard to be away from family but sometimes you need to do what is best for you!
    xo Jessica

  3. Very interesting. My sister has pros and cons of moving to australia too.

    I dont live in India or the US but have been to both places (US many many times - India once (Hyderabad)) and so I can see your perspective from both sides. Very interesting :)

  4. Such an interesting perspective! I remember back when I was studying in Edinburgh it would take me 8 hours to fly home to Detroit, but it would take my boyfriend 11 hours to get back home to Cornwall. Even though he was geographically much closer, he was still 'farther' away.

  5. This is a really interesting perspective. Thank you for sharing so openly.

  6. I moved to US two years ago and if given a choice I wouldn't want to move back to India. With you, you've spent your adult life in the US so I am sure it must be feeling more like home now. But I am in total sync with all your other points. One of the biggest reasons I don't want to move back is no interference from anyone and no unnecessary societal pressure. I know when it would come to tell that I want to continue to live in the US, I will get a lot of flak from my own family but that's how it is.

  7. Such clarity of thoughts . Wow Tanvi . You are a woman who is sure of what she wants from life

  8. Very interesting article. Thank you for sharing your perspective!

  9. Interesting observations. Your perspective has greater validity than that of people who've never been abroad and cannot compare societies. Thanks!

  10. I love hearing your take on living in the US!


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