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Passive Aggressive

I have realized, that over the years (unintentionally) I have tried hard to not behave in a passive aggressive manner. I have made categorial changes in my personality to address issues head on instead of beating around the bush or give the silent treatment. The only instance I choose to be quiet is when I know I am talking to a fool, or when I know silence is a better remedy than words (temporarily). At all other times, I choose to talk about whatever is on my mind. Hell, I am open with even you guys (readers!). 

Passive aggressive behavior, I believe is integral part of any Indian (or desi) household. That is how we have seen our family members interact with each other. When things are great, we feast and dance and watch movies. When things are not-that-great we ignore, avoid and give-the-silent-treatment to each other. No one ever talk about the elephant in the room, and if anyone does, then everyone makes that one person to the villain, because he/she broke the sacred vow of passive-aggression. Having been away from home for over a decade (15 years!), I realize I am out of practice (and patience) of dealing with this hostility. When you have a bizillion things to accomplish, it feels quite a nuisance, if you ask me! 

Moving to the outfit, this is what I wore to the Blogger Scene party last week. This is not the first time I wore a Saree to a blogging event though. Remember this, from Austin in 2012? 

Outfit from Blogger Scene Party - August 2014
Outfit from Blogger Scene Party - January 2015

Saree, Indian, South Asian American, Summer Style, Tanvii.com
Saree, Indian, South Asian American, Summer Style, Tanvii.com
Saree, Indian, South Asian American, Summer Style, Tanvii.com
Saree, Indian, South Asian American, Summer Style, Tanvii.com
Saree, Indian, South Asian American, Summer Style, Tanvii.com
Saree - Mom's
Top - UO // Similar
Earrings - From Jaipur (India) 
Heels - Ted Baker // Similar
Wallet on chain - Dior // Other Option
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  1. anuyaJune 22, 2015 at 3:16 AM

    So true!! And often people who speak their mind go albeit politely are often considered rude and insensitive!!
    On another note I wish I was this comfortable wearing a Sari. I always end wanting to get out of it as soon as I can.

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    1. Tanvi from tanvii.comJune 23, 2015 at 2:06 PM

      Everyone should wear whatever makes them comfortable. Freedom of choice (and dressing) - Right? :) Thanks for the compliment!

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  2. SnehalJune 22, 2015 at 7:03 AM

    Ya Tanvi agree with you the silent treatment does feel like waste of time its much better to talk it out and get it over with!!
    Tanvi u are looking absolutely stunning!! love the grey and pink effect!! <3 pretty u!! :)

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  3. ShybikerJune 22, 2015 at 8:41 AM

    What a beautiful saree! Great colors. Passive aggressive behavior is typically committed by powerless people (e.g., women) as a way to vent their anger or disappointment without getting attacked for it. It's unhealthy. Everyone, including women, should be free to express their feelings, including their negative ones. Doing so is cathartic.

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    1. Tanvi from tanvii.comJune 23, 2015 at 2:07 PM

      You are so right. Helplessness is probably the top reason for passive aggressive behavior. P.S. Thanks for the compliment :)

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  4. NaomiJune 22, 2015 at 11:54 AM

    The passive agressive behavior is very typical of the Romanian culture too. My siblings and I have had to learn how to talk to each other and work out our issues over the years.

    That saree is probably one of the most beautiful things I've seen!

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    1. Tanvi from tanvii.comJune 23, 2015 at 2:08 PM

      I guess, you are right. We are all the same, no matter what country. P.S. Thanks for the compliment Naomi! :)

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  5. AnanyaJune 22, 2015 at 1:41 PM

    Tanvii u look royally elegant in a sari ..what a co incidence I also wore a sari for my latest post :)
    I would really love to hear your feedback :)

    My First Vlog

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  6. UnknownJune 22, 2015 at 6:08 PM

    Couldnt agree more with you! We Indians and esp woman are fed on passive aggression, but definitely its good to confront when its going to make a better sense or bring a change to other person/situation. Else human's can be no different than a volcano!
    On the other note, I like this grey on you.. its no gloomy and you've chosen the right pop of fuchsia to it! ;)

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    1. Tanvi from tanvii.comJune 23, 2015 at 2:11 PM

      Re: Volcano -> Hear! Hear! Thanks for noticing the fuchsia :)

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  7. UnknownJune 23, 2015 at 3:45 AM

    Looking Nice . Indian Beauty in Saree. Nice Outfit :

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  8. NotJessFashionJune 23, 2015 at 11:44 AM

    That saree is beautiful. So stunning! Such an amazing piece!

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

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  9. Chayanika RabhaJune 23, 2015 at 1:19 PM

    Beautiful you and saree. Love it. :)

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  10. Shreya JJune 23, 2015 at 1:19 PM

    You look amazing in that saree! I should really try to wear a saree when abroad more often!
    <3
    Shreya
    Bric-A-Brac

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