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Mind Your Own Originality

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I love originality. I admire people who think out of the box and keep coming up with new ideas. Even if those ideas involve things in everyday life like cooking, or organizing, or sending wishes, or just an act of kindness. I strive for the same 'originality'. I take pride in reaching ... may be, the same destination like others, but by a new and 'fabulous' path. I enjoy being unique. I do not want to be put into a box. The aim is not be mysterious but to be 'different' and stand apart from the crowd. (There are so many thoughts running in my head right now. So many dimensions I can go ahead and write this blog about ... but I will have to choose one. Hmph!)

However, often the downfall of being original is that it lasts only one minute. Why? ... Because some fool will copy you without giving you any credit or even worse not realizing that he/she has copied you! Of course it irritates me at first, but eventually I make peace assuming it as flattery (also I believe most people are stupid! Well, they are!).

Another lesson I have learnt is that you cannot please everyone ... but ... you can please yourself. So therefore, when I'm in doubt about what to do or which path to take I decide by analyzing what will give me mental peace and happiness. Easier said than done, yes! but I try and seldom succeed. I have started to focus on the fact that we all have one life. So, while I will refrain from holding anyone down or coming in the way of their desires, I will not let anyone do that to me either. Couple of years back, one of my childhood friends, Khushbu called me a 'Rebel without a cause' but now I have a cause - Life! (Wise, eh?)

After-thoughts : Does wisdom come with age, life and it's experiences? A few days back I was chatting with my cousin, Vibhuti, who is in her early teens. In-between our conversation something came up and she expressed that she finds me calm, polite, 'prim & proper' and sophisticated-sorts (and she wasn't giving me a compliment!). So either appearances are deceiving or I am finally growing up! *wicked.smile*


  1. Cynical as I am I must say that I think very few things in life are truly original. The world is built incrementally on what on we already know well and have tested. Very few brains have the ability to take that quantum leap outside the box. Those people who do something very original get the Nobel Prize or on the other hand are simply ostracized by society.

  2. Meetu D - Not everyone can be Einstein or win Nobel Prize ... although after Obama may be everyone can! But there are many ways to be 'original' aka different in this world. Of course our ideas are formed by what we know and see and imagine. But it's the outcome of it all which in the end determines the originality.

  3. Life's Beautiful, AnitaNovember 17, 2009 at 2:30 AM

    Very well written.

    I have learnt the same lesson: "You cannot please everyone". Because of our own ORIGINAL personalities that contradict their way of life or principles, they don't accept you (or simply feel you are wrong). However, now I have realized that why accept someone's judgment when you know you will never seek their approval because the differences are so vast. Look to thyself. And that's when I truly accept the statement: We are our own best friends! And it is our responsibility to find happiness rather that depending on others, their approval, their acceptance, or their opinions. Be what makes you proud of yourself and your conscience is clear. Simply because of living LIFE! (we have a reminder of that don't we!) :-p

  4. Woahh .. well written Tanvi... and well commented Ani... I totally agree.. let's please ourselves first! We are all unique!

  5. Hey Di..I loved this post of yours. Its very well written and it speaks to me in a very different light from what it is intended to. But I guess thats the beauty of one's writting. Good Job (y)

    "As of now"..I belive...Think abt your happiness first and then think abt others. One life to live!

    Ani..LOved ur comments too. I really think u shld start writing. Very soon i will start too. LOL Wonder who will read tht ! Hmm...

  6. Ani - I completely agree. We should stop looking for approval and just find inner peace and happiness with our actions. No one else's validation is going to make a difference. And our "LIFE" rocks and I LOVE IT :)

    Nandini - Thank You! and Yes we are, all unique and individual. No photocopy here ;) hehe

    TJ - Yo Bro! Hold your horses. Dnt make my blog responsible for your actions... hahah... Think about your happiness as long as it doesn'r harm/hurt any one else, is what I am saying! And YES! Plz write. I will read it. Mutual admiration club, lifetime membership, remember? :P


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