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Refreshing Change

This is a cartoon, of myself, drawn by my husband dearest. Do you see any resemblance? :P


After months of being flooded with compliments and then some more ... it has been a refreshing morning with someone telling me the truth - I am not fit and I lack stamina. I happen to do a strength analysis today. Conclusion? I have fat stored in my inner thighs and inner arms. I have a weak lower back and shoulder. The person taking my strength test was not impressed! According to him, I have a long way to go.

Contrary to popular belief (that I dig compliments), I actually appreciate the naked truth. I immediately respect the person whom I believe is telling me the complete truth (with total honesty) without a condescending tone.

I had a killer workout today. By the end of the session I wanted to burst-out crying with tears of pain ... but it feels soooooo good now. I am true believer of No Pain - No Gain!


Recently I have noticed that the society feeds hypocrisy. People would say 'be genuine' on face value but in reality they want you to be up to their 'expectations'; sometimes it's in the name of courtesy, manners, relations, etc. I agree that there should be consistency on one's behavior, however, if someone has made up their mind that they do not want to involve in someone's affairs then that's it! In my opinion everyone should respect that person's decision and leave them alone.

But no! society (which means people, like you & me) cannot do that. We want everyone to give us a fake smile rather than move on without a smile. We want people to come and shed fake tears in condolences than not come at all. I don't know about others but personally I'd rather know that a particular person doesn't like me to my face than a person who pretends to like me and then turns around and makes a face!

I was discussing this with Grandmother (of all the people). As always, she did hear me patiently and agreed with my point of view. But naturally, she said. " The world doesn't work like this." What a shame, I say!


  1. Ha! I had almost forgot about this caricature! Liked your blog as always!

    Go Tanvi!

  2. Oopsie ! Typo alert - read 'forgotten'.

  3. Insistent on being CONsistent, AnitaOctober 30, 2009 at 5:45 AM

    So cute!! Ashish, I am telling u...forget phd and all that..u need to explore that creative animal in u :-p rowr!!

    tanvi, ur article reminds me of random conversations when u were here. I totally agree with CONSISTENCY. It doesn't matter if everyone is not your friend and all that but I just feel how hard is to be courteous? Like if someone literally is right in your face (you either don't know each other, or don't care to know each other) but regardless, don't you think a harmless smile is just something that creeps in subconsciously/naturally? Anyways, everybody's different and their definitions of courtesy or general basic behaviors differ. So good for them if it works for them. It's sad that I feel that we have to mirror the attitude we get back and in that way, we become just like them. Sad, sad, sad!

    I think Amma said it best: "The world doesn't work like this"! So let's just keep the nice people in our world and bye bye tata to the OTHERS! :-p

  4. I want a balance between a fake smile and the naked truth...and that's the naked truth!

  5. Anita - Thanksss!!! It's too late to forget about PhD now. It's just one month away now... so I'm thinking of doing the world a favor by taking it :p

  6. Husband - Thanks :o)

    Ani - If someone doesn't wanna smile then even a harmless smile can be quite torturous. I guess once someone doesn't treat you right the first time you shldn't expect anything ever again. I like life being simple.

    Meetu D - I guess to each their own. I like it the way it is :o)

  7. Expecting good fm ppl and nice smile is very natural.Blank expressions are weared.
    We can only try not being hypocrate which is very hard.

  8. Anon - I do not think it's hard. It's quite easy ... but uncomfortable ... becoz we want to please everyone!


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