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I Am My Own Fan

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Husband: Would you say you are a fan of Patriots or Redskins (re: American Football)?
Me: 🥴

Husband: Are you a fan of me then?
Me: Currently I am only fanning myself. You know, I have had this voice in my head for the last 30 years telling me my body isn’t thin enough. When I got thin then my body wasn’t fit enough. My hair has never been thick enough. When I am in the west my skin isn’t brown enough. When I am home my skin isn’t fair enough. I am not smart enough, I am not ambitious enough, I am not good enough.

Agrh! I have had enough! I have to tell that voice, “
Bitch sit down!” - I am enough. I am gonna love myself head-to-toe exactly the way I am without making any changes. I have lived half of my life already and I am gonna spend remaining of my life loving myself, because I am enough. And to answer your question, I am my own fan.

Husband: That was not my question. But cool. Cool.


... and that ladies and gentleman is what sometimes talking to me is like ... you could have asked a perfectly innocent question but it will instigate a passionate-heartfelt albeit a deferred response from me. Watchya gonna do? This is how my brain works. I can't change it. :) 

As for the outfits, husband and I had attended a wedding a few weekends back and the dress-code was cocktail attire. This is what we came up for it. 


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Location - Dupont Circle Hotel

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  1. Wise advice; elegant outfits. Love the Edelman heels.

    We get trapped in insecurity at times and need to break out of that mental rut. We all deserve joy simply for being alive. We shouldn't let bad psychological states ruin our brief opportunities for happiness. I'm glad to see you reach this point. Go, you!

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  2. Insecurity is what prevents us from fully living life in my opinion. To taste every nuance and print it every moment.

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  3. Such honesty and clarity - very happy for you to be at this stage Tanvi and inspiring us to head to too! And it is usually the innocent or simple questions that trigger that influx of passionate emotions for me too - and I thoroughly enjoyed reading yours :)

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  4. You look stylish and absolutely charming in that black outfit and silver heels. Your message is very inspiring for a lot of women. It is very pleasant to traverse your writings.

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  5. Yes!!! I've definitely had my moments but I've realized recently it's too exhausting to worry so much! I love that - telling your little voice bitch sit down! hah!

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  6. You guys look so dapper for this wedding! I love it!

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  7. OH I love the attire, it's so pretty! And it's so true, I am glad you're fanning yourself - we all should be our own fans. But yes usually the most innocent questions will get the most heated answers LOL.

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  8. 'I'm only fanning myself' - loved this!

    Mariya | https://www.brunetteondemand.com/

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  9. Loving the message behind this post, it is so important to follow and live by! Thank you for sharing that- great post! xoxo sarah

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  10. What a stunning couple you and your husband make! Your clothing and style is super stylish as well.

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  11. Love this post and your outfits!

    Rachel
    www.hello-her.com

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  12. I think it's awesome that you're a fan of yourself. That's a really important mindset to have as an individual and as a woman! And you look incredible, by the way!

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  13. I can totally relate to this, self doubt happens to me and I need to combat that with positive affirmation.

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  14. Loving your style. that outfit is super cute :)

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  15. Insecurity is a deadly and silent killer. If we're not careful it can paralyze us mentally!

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  16. You both look amazing and loving the outfits!! So important to be a fan of yourself!!

    Kileen
    cute & little

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  17. Lovely cocktail outfits. I hope you take note of your own message to yourself and your husband, it's a good one!

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  18. You definitely nailed the cocktail attire! And keep up the fanning for yourself!! We should all be doing more of that!

    -Morgan
    How 2 Wear It [] http://how2wearit.com

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  19. Why is it so hard to believe we are enough? To build ourselves up when our minds seem to be on repeat to tear us down? If you have been able to switch the endless loop of not good enough to I am enough then you are my hero.
    Chic on the Cheap

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  20. You are very right! Idolized your self before others. Because in the end, we are the only one left who believe in our self. And for last. you two are very lovely couple and very decent. <3

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  21. I used to be a Patriot fan but now I become a fair weather fan. You two look good together.

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  22. Can't love nobody until you love yourself, right? Insecurities we all suffer, but what's important is how we deal with them.

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  23. Yes to telling that negative voice in your head, to take a sit. It's time for us to appreciate and love and fan ourselves too.
    XO, MJ
    https://www.lush-fab-glam.com

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  24. Ha! I love your energy.I think I would really enjoy chatting with you. I am very much like that with my responses. We all have to battle with the negative voices in our heads. We just have to learn to deal with them and always love ourselves.

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  25. Girl, sometimes you've got to be your own fan! No one will look out for you like yourself. Your dress is lovely!

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  26. That is how my mind works too. Sometimes people hear way more than they were interested in hearing. Sometimes I’m glad I said it and other times... not so much!

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  27. You and your husband matched so perfectly and loved the looks! I love that you always share such vulnerable things, it makes your posts so much relatable.

    Denise | Fashion Love Letters

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  28. both of u r dressed to kill

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