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Networking Is Not My Cup Of Coffee

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Networking is often considered to be one of the most important factors in most professions, and people often go out of their way to prioritize developing relationships with potentially helpful people over cultivating other parts of their professional and personal lives.

I am not a big fan of networking. I have never been. Earlier I thought it was because I was an introverted-extrovert but I have come to realize it is because it has never benefitted me. I have been able to achieve more or less the same 'results' without networking that my contemporaries have with networking.

But if you are going to network, then reset your approach ...

1. Go into networking events looking to help others, connect them with people in your network, and to listen. You might be surprised at what you can learn by putting others first.

2. Instead of going around handing your business cards to every person in the room, consider connecting with one or two people ... in depth! Find out what projects they are working on and some of the wins and challenges they are encountering. This will lay the groundwork for a possible working relationship down the road. If not, there is the possibility of connecting each other with someone who each of you can work with.

3. And most importantly, attend events specific to your industry. Quality over quantity. 

I too, do step out and network every once in a while, but it is more out of my need for human connection than to gain anything professionally. I am not against networking but I strongly am inclined to believe it is a tab-bit over-rated.

The simplest answer is that we believe networking will lead to making the valuable connections. What often goes unsaid, however, is that these connections are not equitably distributed across society. They don't tend to cross class, race and gender lines as often as those who extol the virtues of getting yourself in front of the right people in your field would like to believe they do. Those "right" people aren't showing up at wine and cheese mixers. They already have their networks and those networks tend to be insular and well-vetted for "fit." - J. Maureen Henderson (via)

Moving on to the pictures ... these were taken by Anna recently, at the event hosted by Angelica Talan from Angelica in the City. Now she is an expert at connecting people and building meaningful relationships. She had curated a delightful group of people for this event at the new Blue Bottle location at Union Market. Blue Bottle is a San Francisco based coffee brand that has recently been opened several locations around D.C. Aside from coffee they also offer some delicious bites among which the avocado toast was my favorite (as I couldn't consume the baked goods).

Photography: Anna Darlak
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Location - Blue Bottle Coffee at Union Market

Kaftan - Steve Madden // LOVE
Jeans - Joe's // Same
Shoes - Steve Madden // Similar
Bag - c/o Lidia May // Same
Earrings - From India // Better

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34 comments

  1. I am definitely not the biggest fan of networking either, but have definitely seen great opportunities come from it when I push myself out of my comfort zone. Totally agree with quality over quantity!

    xx, Danielle | www.pineappleandprosecco.com

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  2. Thanks for the helpful suggestions! I appreicate them. :)

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  3. Such nice photos with the other ladies. And yea, Blue Bottle is really big over here. When it comes to networking, I would consider myself to be bad it simply because I tend to turn down 90% of the events I'm invited to, lol.

    www.ohtobeamuse.com

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  4. I am so not good at networking because I tend to be shy when I meet people, but these are some great tips that I will use in the future!

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  5. I am not great at networking, but these tips are great and I can totally use them in the future!

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  6. I love the reminder to focus on quality over quantity in networking. So important to make real connections.
    Lee | LegalLee Blonde

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  7. I actually love networking. I used to be in outside sales before blogging so I look at every connection as an opportunity whether future or present. I love making friends at these events too. Love seeing you with Alison! She is fabulous and amazing!!

    XOXO
    Cathy

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  8. Oh this looked like a good time! I like events like these!

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  9. I can relate, I am not a fan of networking but have met amazing people while attending them.

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  10. I am totally not into networking either.. for me I can be really shy and takes me a while to open up to people but I’ve learned in this industry that networking can be very beneficial so I like your tips about going in and seeing how you can help someone else and marking deeper connections with less people. That might make it less overwhelming and way more worth it!

    Xo, Steph

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  11. Networking can be hard at times, and I like your ideas on approaching it! Great outfit too, love the colors.

    Kileen
    cute & little

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  12. I don't really do the networking thing either. It feels so contrived most of the time, maybe because everyone seems to make empty promises in the networking "moment". Your event looks like fun though Tanvi and as always I love your outfit. That kaftan is such a fun piece

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  13. Great ideas on how to change the perspective on networking! Nice photos, too. I do love DC (my hometown, too!). I think people underrate it as one of the "exciting" US cities sometimes.

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  14. I used to go to networking events organised by the business centre I used to work at, and they were always so impersonal and had a schedule, like everyone talk for 2 minutes about their business. Not I only attend blogging conferences and networking events and it's such a huge difference as people are there to actual network and not to exchange business cards and talk about their business in 2 minutes!

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  15. Thank you for the reminder on the importance of networking. I definitely need to do more for my business and just need to schedule it in.

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  16. I can so relate. I am not the type to network at all but I do every once in a while. I love your pictures too and you made some really good points.

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  17. I agree. Networking is about what you put into first. Throwing your business cards around isn't going to do anything. You have to build the relationship.

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  18. I'm actually a huge fan of networking, because you never know you're going to meet. I agree on your tips and will remember them for the next time!

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  19. I LOVE THIS POST. I always felt like I was the only one that felt that way...and that it was odd that I am an influencer and felt that way. Connection is always better than just spreading the word for me!

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  20. I loved this post..!! Networking is really important in any business. Great tips for someone who is new in this area, amazing tips.

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  21. It's so crazy that I don't believe THAT much in networking either, but I thought to be the only one! Like you, I haven't benefited much from it in the past, so I thought if one should optimize one's work and spend more energy in what works best, I also left networking aside. I prefer to invest my time and energy in relationships that create bonds that go beyond mutual material convenience, like true friendship!

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  22. Great points! It's a lot like connecting with clients and customers. Though it's tempting to try to go for the masses to get a high number of sales you are most likely to get more sales if you get REPEAT customers/clients which usually comes as a result of focusing your attention smaller. I never really thought of it in this way with networking, but you have great points.

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  23. Networking can be hard and it takes so much energy! I normally hate the thought of going to a networking event but love it while I'm there! My ice breaker is that I'm from Iowa, it's always an easy way to start conversation for me! You look so cute in this look, I love the top!

    xo, Sarah

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  24. I absolutely loved what you said about focusing on others. Such a simple concept and one that will gain you so much more than people realize!! When we get to know others and what their needs are and remove our own needs from the dynamic, it is amazing what we can accomplish!! Such great points in your article!!

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  25. As I have gotten older I have disliked to network more and more.. probably because as you say sometimes there is no benefit in networking.

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  26. You've touched some valid points on networking. Going on events to actually connect with people and learn from them is the correct way of networking. It's not always about beating your own drums. I'm not a fan of networking either and I do go on events when I feel the need to be in touch with the human world.

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  27. I used to just give out my calling cards to every person I met in an event. But I realized it is not effective. What I do now is talk to a few people, like a nice conversation and it works like a charm!

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  28. I love networking but I feel like before I enter in a room full of people I'm always a tad bit nervous. I end up making great connections so that initial nervousness is well worth it!

    xo, Laura

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  29. I been to networking event afew times only. Most the people they just exchange the business and talked for 5 mins then they talked with other person, thats why I didnt go there anymore

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  30. I am super introverted so I understand fully! however, I have definitely seen great opportunities come from it when I push myself out of my comfort zone.

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  31. Networking isn't my favourite thing ever either. I can totally see how it benefits some people though and businesses too, but sometimes I think it feels impersonal.

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  32. I feel the same way about networking. It can be so stressful! I like what you said about connecting with just 2-3 people.

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  33. Hi
    I really like your post. Thanks for the tips.

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