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Wise Beyond My Years

One of the re-occurring compliments I receive is that I am "wise beyond my years". It makes me smile. It makes me feel good about myself. Scratch that. It actually makes me thankful for having my parents, as my parents. They must have done things right and given me the tools to think for myself. I always share the compliment with them. My mom is often indifferent to it, but my Dad smiles along with me. But the purpose of this post, is not to praise my parents or to gloat about my compliments. It is about the afterthought I have post receiving the compliment.

I am 35. How wise am I supposed to be? What is the appropriate ratio of wise-ness to age? Who decides how wise a person should be at a given age? These are the questions I ponder over (but never ask anyone, of course). 

It is rather ironic that I should get wiser before the required age (which no one knows what it is supposed to be) because in all other areas of life, I have rather been a late bloomer. You see, I learnt how to do make up and style hair (besides blow drying them or wrapping the up in a bun) exactly two years back. I found 'my' style about a year back. I became the person I was supposed to be post 30 and I just got comfortable in my skin.

I often look back at my 20s and realize, 'O boy I was so naive!'. I am 99% certain that I will look back ten years from now and still think I was naive. I am still learning how to get 'smart' about people and how not to let people use me or take me for granted. Learning to say no (i.e. this) and choosing to spend time with fewer but kinder people has been step one in that process. And I have no idea what step two should be, but I will share with you as soon as I have figured it out. But as always, I digress ... what I am saying it that while I love the compliment, its meaning and relevance is lost on me.

Moving on to the outfit, this was one of my favorite days from our Malta trip. We spent the afternoon exploring the island of Gozo. I was wearing this stylish-light-flowing wrap dress from Yetunde Sarumi over a rather casual outfit. This layering made all the difference to my look. Do check out Yetunde Sarumi's collection. She is a DMV based designer whose trade signature lies in the delicate combination of elegance and class with bold African prints. I can't wait to incorporate this maxi in my looks this fall but for now enjoy the pictures and 

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Maxi - c/o Yetunde Sarumi // Same
Shorts - Miss Sixty // Similar
Shoes - Rackroom // Obsessed
Sunglasses - c/o Foster Grant // Similar


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  1. Beautiful pictures, Tanvi! Make me want to travel soon. And you're right, I'm not sure how people gauge how wise you are and ought to be.

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  2. People have been saying that to me for many years also. Thing is, like you, I look back at my early 20's and think - "what was I even thinking" and so its meaning and reverence is often lost on me too.

    As usual, lovely styling on the outfit.

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  3. This is so true. At 35 I am still a work in progress in many, many ways, but I can look back and see how I've matured. You look fabulous in the wrap. What a stunning color!!

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  4. Every birthday I feel that I'm one year wiser! True that it's hard to measure the wise-ness to age. I believe its all in perspective to how we see life. I love the tee. It sort of says it all "trust your gut".

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  5. I definitely agree that I feel "wiser" now that I'm in my 30s. Sometimes I wish I could do my 20s all over again, lol. Anyway, I totally love your photos. Fabulous maxi.

    www.ohtobeamuse.com

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  6. Love this royal blues duster and tbe outfit is so clasy and chic.

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  7. That color is so beautiful! I have also been told that a lot through my life, and yet I still don't feel it! I totally agree on looking back 10 years ago and feeling like I cannot believe how naive I was.

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  8. This is a wonderful post. I also look back on my twenties thinking how could I ever be so naive, on the other hand, If you are going to naive the twenties are a great decade. I think that my naivity saved my life a few times :-)

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  9. I get that too - that I'm a "old soul." I chalk that up to being a little more mature (maybe boring?) than I should be. LOL! You look gorgeous - these photos are stunning! While I only "know" you from reading your blog, you really do seem wise beyond your years.

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  10. You look gorgeous in Royal blue wrap. Live your style... very chic. I never knew Malta is such a beautiful place.
    Being wise is nothing to do with age I feel.

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  11. I've always been told I'm wise beyond my years - sometimes I have to stop to remind myself I'm not even 30 and I don't know ANYTHING yet! We're old souls in young bods apparently lol

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  12. Be wise but never grow up! Love the article. Your words & style both rock!

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  13. I've always gotten the compliment of being wise beyond my years (I'm 34), especially from my mom. Many people come to me for advice/opinions/feedback. I am also a late bloomer & still working at becoming the person I want to be. I hope people always consider me wise & come to me for advice. :) I love your outfit, especially the shirt. We can never go wrong by trusting our gut!

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  14. The royal blue definitely complements your skin. And the background is awesome, I never been to Malta, hopefully someday I will be able to visit that place and live life to the fullest.

    From: Calleigh K - TheForkBite.com

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  15. looking amazing in that blue duster!
    have a great day!
    S

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  16. love this outfit and malta looks beautiful!
    learning to say no is incredibly important.. i'm still learning how to do that.

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  17. Such beautiful pictures. It's really fueling the desire in me to start travelling again. I am in my late twenties and i think i get wiser with each year.

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  18. 35 and looking fly! And everything is always better in hindsight, right? PS Gozo looks absolutely gorgeous.

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  19. I like the contrast between your blue outfit and the cream colors of Gozo. I have traveled to Gozo last year and I enjoyed it so much. What a beautiful little island!

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  20. You look fabulous in your blue duster with that great outfit. I love the place too.

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  21. definitely saying NO has brought about a lot of changes in my life too...your cape/outer looks gorgeous on you!

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  22. I would definitely think that's a fabulous compliment, Tanvi!! Because truly that's the advantage of aging--we have more experience and knowledge!!
    Lovely outfit!!
    XOXO
    Jodie
    www.jtouchofstyle.com

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  23. I've had people say similar things to me. I just tell them it comes from life not always going your way and I wouldn't change it for a thing. ps: You look absolutely stunning in your pretty blue maxi! Great photos. x

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  24. I don't necessarily think it's more about life experiences rather than age. Lovely wrap,that color is stunning on you!

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  25. I love that maxi. It is so chic but look comfortable enough to wear in Florida.

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  26. I have this irrational fear of hitting my 30's (in a few years I will) and you are so right. You only get wiser with age...I shouldn't fear it.
    xo, Lily
    Beauty With Lily

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  27. Yes, being told you are wise is a compliment for sure! A little wisdom goes a long way.

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  28. This blue look really good on you. I really want to buy your outfit! I'm looking it up now. Thanks so much for sharing.

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  29. Love that quote on your shirt. "Trust your guts" something I have a difficult time doing because I'm always so panicky and have decidophobia~

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  30. I love the phrase on your shirt, I often try to trust it, and I think I'm getting better at it. I always regret it when I don't. I love this blue on you!

    Amber
    http://amusedblog.com

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  31. This is so true! I look back at my teens and my 20s and think to myself - what in the world was I thinking? But then again, 10 years from now I will look back in my 30s and think the same. Just have to be thankful for each and every year we live and make the best of it :) Love the royal blue on you!!!
    xox Nadia
    www.mielandmint.com

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