Growing Sense of Responsibility

1:01 AM

I can see why it might seem like I live in an all-rosy-lala-land with a fabulous life, loving husband and a blog where all wonderful things happen. While I do love my life and have said this more than once that I believe in making most of whatever is thrown my way ... however, I my positivity is turning out to be a double edged sword. I feel the need to tell my readers who happens to be a lot of young girls (15-25 years) that it is never as it seems

We have already established more than once that bloggers are free to blog about whatever their heart desires. However, I cannot help but feel a growing sense of responsibility towards what I decide to share here. There are people, who are in a highly impressionable age reading my blog and forming opinions, not just about me (which I do not care about as much) but about their own life and career. I am not delusional to believe that "I" alone would have such an impact but from the feedback/messages/emails I receive I would say I definitely play a vital role here. This post is for all my YOUNG readers who regularly read my blog.

If you guys are ever going to trust me on something ... then trust me on this

- life is not perfect for ANYONE
- it might seem that everyone has it better than you, but they really don't
- don't believe everything people write on their blogs. People lie. 
- just because everyone in the world is buying something doesn't mean you have to as well
- savings are MORE important than shopping at SALES
- there is no such thing as a Free Lunch!
- believe in excellence and not short cuts
- be street smart but not vicious and mean
- always be kind and polite but never a push over. Stand up for yourself!
- AND everything turns out for the best in the end! Really does! Have Faith!

An Evening at National Harbor, Maryland

Top - Zara [10'] 
Outfit Details
Pants - Zara [11']
Belt - Ralph Lauren [08']
Shoes - Charlotte Russe [10']
Bag - Rebecca Minkoff [11']

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99 comments

  1. Another excellent post with good advice for everyone including oldies like me out of their twenties. Life is never perfect but you obviously make the most of yours as we all should.
    That last pic is soooooo cute!

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  2. Tanvi your so inspiring!!! there should be more women like you xoxoxo

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  3. A big thank you for this post Tanvi. I read all your posts and think you are fabulous. I confess I have more than once wanted your life. This write-up made me sit up and count my blessings. =)

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  4. HAHAHHAHA the last pic. like in old movies where u had a rose instead where u have a bag :D

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  5. wow nice post ..... i like ur shirt print and last romantic pic is lovely ....... ;-)
    http://fashionstyle-pk.blogspot.com/

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  6. very inspiring post. As blogging is a kinda virtual world and we cannot really trust whatever a person is writing is all true, so we should use our senses and not follow someone blindly.
    beautiful pics. The last pic is so fun....

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  7. Thanks for this post Tanvii...loved to read all the points....especially the one where you said about Saving is important than buying at Sales...which we tend to forget at times!!!

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  8. Last pic is the best and the handbag reminds me of old hindi movies! Did you two break into a song??? No? Do it next time! :)

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  9. u said it correct..life is not what it seems to be from far..

    love the last pic :)

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  10. good advice people do make assumptions about life through others and blogs do have an impact
    Cute outfit and how do you walk in such high heels!! I can never do it all I manage is stumbling on husband's arm, you need to do a tutorial on it

    p.s the last pic is too cute

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  11. I am new to blogger and I went through so many blogs. But I must say, I loved reading yours the most. It is the most inspiring one I have ever come across.
    Loved your outfit and the last image is adorable.

    Following you.

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  12. Heylooo, Totally agree with you :)

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  13. Blogging has become a way of life for many of us out there and few realize the responsibilities that come with it say, giving any piece of advise or sharing an idea or how-to, this post of yours should surely be an eye-opener not just to naive new comers into blogging world but also a message to the experienced bloggers out there to be more responsible. Good post!

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  14. Thanks for my hugs sweet pea!
    What a sunny outfit you've got on... thanks for being my little ray of light on this Weds morning.

    Great post. I think it's fantastic that you have considered being responsible to your readers. I will also like to back Ashton Kutcher up on his advice for young peeps:

    'Here's the best piece of advice I got when I was a teenager,
    don't ever charge anything on a credit card if you don't already have the money in the bank to pay for it.'

    Also, having worked in the fashion inudstry for years, i never felt the urge to go splash out on unnecessary cash on a designer handbag/shoes (early on in my career) just because everyone else in the office did so every month and then ate nothing but baked beans on toast for dinner almost every night! OR only ate a few leaves of their salad packs to stay stick thin. Def. no-no.

    I will def agree with you on the bit about posting only the stuff you want your readers to see... behind all that everyone does have their own problems, we are just NEVER told what they are.

    Think i've said enough here, have an awesome day girl!
    x.o.x.o

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  15. Lovely post Tanvi..these guidelines are forever and for everyone..
    savings are MORE important than shopping at SALES...this is the mantra for a happy life.

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  16. Love the top you are wearing!
    As for the post.. Its easy to get carried away, especially in virtual world. Its ok to get inspired by people, and try to change your life for the better but you need to know where to draw the line...

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  17. This look is absolutely perfect. I love the leopard print shirt paired with the wee belt and the yellow pants.

    The shoes look super high but you don't look like you are in pain so they must be pretty comfy...

    The last picy is lush.

    Alba

    www.fashionistaontour.com

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  18. wise words. i'm loving the colour scheme here.

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  19. Aahh Tanvi, I might be way too old for this post, but enjoyed reading it nonetheless... I don't even think people lie on their blogs (okay, maybe some do), but we make a choice what we share - and human decency often prevents us babbling too personally on the www. X

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  20. Cute last picture;) Also, loving the top. Prints are definitely the way forward, sometimes ;)

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  21. hey just luv ur blog now.......!m its fan....!m 13...!!:P and regular though........!luved the point that dont follow wat blogs say people lie....!..:).......really amazing post..ur NOT one of those "JUST FASHION" blogger

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  22. Why so hot, milady?
    Also, the last picture cracked me up. :] Such a filmy pose! Hai na?

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  23. Very well said! Totally dig your thoughts. LOVE LOVE LOVE the last picture.
    Too cute. :)

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  24. so inspiring..esp. - savings are MORE important than shopping at SALES cos I always fail to do that!

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  25. yes in the end everything goes well and good , just like the last picture :P
    <3

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  26. What an inspiring post! I absolutely agree with the advice for the grass always does look greener on the other side!! Your totally awesome, love the lemon pants and the animal print top!! :)

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  27. Great post as always Tanvi, with some excellent advice for your younger readers...very responsible of you. Love that last shot of you with hubby, you guys are so cute:):)

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  28. awww...the last pic is just awesome!! and i love ur heels girl...how did you manage to walk in a park wearing them?!!

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  29. Thank you for sharing some great advice :) I absolutely love your Zara pants as yellow is my favorite color!

    Have a fabulous day ahead :)
    Janey
    xxxxx

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  30. you are very right. best to never compare your life to others b/c our paths and history are all very different.

    ps. last pic is adorable!

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  31. This was all excellent advice :) and you look amazing. The last picture... awwwwwwwwwwwww.

    Leia

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  32. A timely and greatly appreciated post. Thank you.

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  33. What a lovely post! The last piece of advice is my favourite and that picture of you and hubs is adorable. x

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  34. Great "truths!" The only one I'm a bit unsure about is that everyone has it equally bad or good as anyone else. I certainly know people who have had harder lives than I have, and I also know people who have had a lot easier lives than me. I think the main thing, regardless of the cards one is dealt is to be accepting and happy with what you have. :)

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  35. definitely agree with you, especially in the sense that you rarely know what people are dealing with behind closed doors. So many smiles without the real deal. I wrote abut this recently. Have to say though I definitely think some people get a harder lot in life.

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  36. I absoloutly love this post...so true are the words you wrote and it was nice to hear you mention the saving part because I'm having to put shopping to the side for a while as saving for a car and house etc

    Eda ♥

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  37. Tanvii, this is so, SO true. I feel like a lot of the reason blogs are so happy and bubbly is because no one wants to read the real stuff, or the bad stuff, including ourselves. I don't know how many blogs I've come across where the author frequently has a 'venting' blog as well as their 'pretty' blog, including myself.

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  38. So true Tanvi! I admire that you have taken the responsibilty of letting people know that life is not perfect all the time..and that they should not be carried away by whatever they see or read online!


    I totally love the last pic! :)

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  39. Wisdom and sound advice from my favorite fashionista! I hope the girls listen and learn.

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  40. The last picture is absolutely adorable and I love the pairing of yellow and leopard!

    Now that the obligatory outfit and photo comments are down, let me tell you how much I admire you for writing this post. It is hard to be a blogger and not realize that your audience may include more than women in your age group, but also impressionable youth. I wish someone would've given me this advice when I was 15-25! You are a beautiful bottle of infinite wisdom and you are right, there are other aspects of a blogger's life than meets the computer screen. We all have bad days, go through hard times and have much more going on than just what we wear.

    Love ya and love this post!

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  41. Aww I love your tips and that last picture is too, too sweet!

    xoxo,
    Chic 'n Cheap Living

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  42. Great post! I think the most I agree with - "AND everything turns out for the best in the end! Really does! Have Faith!" Thats a big one.

    You are wise person at such a young age (my mom said that!, she reads you too and I agree) she reads your blog and calls it "Tanvi dose" for the day!

    Cute last pic ;)

    xo Nav
    http://navlandstyle.blogspot.com/

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  43. Great post, Tanvi! The grass is always greener, hah? There was a time when I had to take the bus home from a rather upsetting visit to the vet, and I was crying hysterically. This man looked over at me and said "What do YOU have to cry about? You have everything." And, I just remember thinking, "What do you know about my life?" Appearances are just that. You never really know what's going on with someone.

    On a lighter note, I absolutely love the mix of colors and textures in this look!

    Santina
    http://stylebysantina.blogspot.com/

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  44. I am a new follower to your blog and I just have to say you are a breath of fresh air. its so wonderful to see an beautiful indian woman do her thing with such confidence and poise. I hope you'll take osme time to check out my blog I think you will find it different but still worth it : )

    and its both a wonderful and terrifying knowing that you can have an impact on someone it does mean we do have a bit more responsibility...

    xoxo

    http://theartfulbalance.blogspot.com

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  45. It's true, nothing is as it seems!! Love the photographs, those pants are awesome.

    _Ellie

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  46. The way you take your responsibility as a celeb blogger is so inspirational!I believe each and every word of what you've written here.But the last picture makes it a little difficult to believe that EVEN YOU don't have a fairytale life!Only I know how much I've missed that red sling of yours all these days!And those pants?*Crush Crush*

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  47. Great advice for the youngins!! Your outfit is beyond fabulous!!!



    xoxo,
    Mel

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  48. Me fell in love with "THE LAST PIC".... M just sucker for romantic Pictures!!! U too are adorable..touh wood dee.

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  49. hahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahah!! You got me with the P.S. ;)

    <3

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  50. amazing outfit!
    those shoes are to die for!

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  51. This is your best post till date. The others are fantastic too but I really like this one. You make so many valid points and it's not just the 15 - 25 year olds that should understand them. They're great lessons in life for all ages.

    Love the last photo :)

    Gayatri

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  52. As a young person, this post was exactly what I need. I think bloggers can be good role models to younger readers, so it's great to be able to share experiences.

    I love the one about being polite, but not a push over.

    And you look amazing. THe yellow jeans suit you so well!!

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  53. haha i love the last picture! so filmy ;) and i had to learn all those points the hard way. I shudve known u earlier ;)

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  54. Well said. When I was young I always felt I was missing something. But grew to realise this was untrue. You look wonderful in these colours. Great combination (and by that I mean that last picture too). Xxxx

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  55. First of all, you look SO GOOD!
    And that advice you gave to your young readers actually applies to us all! I love it! Great advice

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  56. You are speakin' my language! Love the red and the lep. And super cute last pic.

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  57. awesome post! I totally agree.. and i love that top!!
    xxx

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  58. i agree that life isn't perfect for anyone and it's so important to be reminded of that!

    loving your pumps in this post..

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  59. Couldn't have said it better myself! Well put, sweetie :) And I'm loving this look. You know me and animal print have a major love affair, right? :) xoxo

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  60. I like the one that says 'Bloggers lie'. Perhaps they don't lie outright but only show the good bits of life

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  61. the last pic is the bestest pic...soo cute
    and i love ur outfit as always Tanvi<3

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  62. Thank you so much for being so raw and honest on your blog. I think so highly of you. I really can't stand how some blogs are just happy all the time...Get real! Granted, no one wants to read about debbie downer, but life isn't always all sunshine. Thank you for being true to yourself and responsible to your impressionable readers. You are fantastic.

    xo.

    Angie

    thehotnessyourmommawarnedyouabout.blogspot.com

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  63. Like your points- bang on advice I'd give to a girl of that age! And points I'd keep reminding mysef..Life is not all ROSY LA LA LAND for sure :-p

    Awesome outfit! you explore the city in those high heels?

    Orange bag wow. Last photograph sooooo cute!!!!

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  64. Drop dead gorgeous and wise... Great post dear! :)

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  65. :) nodding my head over here while reading your post. So true Tanvi. Really nice of you to write about this!

    The last picture is soooo adorable :) you got to frame it!

    One more thing that I was thinking about asking you. Is there any particular way you maintain your shoes and handbags? All your shoes and handbags look brand new even though I have noticed them in many of your older posts (So yes, I know you keep them in top shape). If you do :) then it will be really nice of you to share some tips!

    xoxo
    anusha

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  66. I appreciate that you feel the responsibility to do this for the young readers. I also agree upon most of the points you mentioned.. very sensible. Your outfit is not OTT (for a change).. I like it :)

    I have never liked your increased urge to show your personal life (read romancing stuff) on the net. It is so not dignifying if you ask me and hey! I am 24 and while you write so well above... like a matured 30 year old woman.. when I scroll down and see that pic I told myself 'I am better off being 24!' because that's something I did when I was 19 something. You have better lessons to learn Tanvi. Sorry if that hurt :)

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  67. Nice shoes xoxo

    http://silhouetteparisienne.blogspot.com

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  68. @kalpana

    Usually, I would ignore comments like yours but if I do that today then I am not really walking the talk and standing up for my self.

    So here goes, Kalpana! Clearly my blog isn't for you, now is it?

    Also, I was a more cautious 19 years old than you were. I never would have done this back then, since I was always too mature for my age
    But I CAN now 'coz hey! I am married and not answerable to anyone, including YOU!

    Bloggers do not blog to please their readers. The readers read 'coz they connect with them. And saying you are sorry if it hurts me, is more like saying Don't take it personally so why say it?

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  69. I see you guys!! hahahah
    lovely outfit Tanvi.
    lee x

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  70. great advice for young readers tanvi! And love the last pic of you and hubby. too cute :)

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  71. "Believe in excellence and not short cuts" -- I cannot agree more with this statement! Everything I have, I got the hard way, but I wouldn't change that for the world.
    Your Rebecca Minkoff bag looks great against your yellow pants! And the photo with your husband, too sweet.
    Take care!

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  72. Love the leopard print and it looks amazing with red.

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  73. Love those pants. and shoes. and, well I guess the whole outfit needs to become mine :)

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  74. I love reading and seeing your posts! Always makes me smile!

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  75. oh people totally lie on their blogs--they really do.

    great animal print top--i never would have thought to pair it with colorful pants.

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  76. I like these kind of posts from you more than others..more than just fashion.

    Very honest and truthful. Very few people can say it openly.

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  77. Hey the last pic could have had two roses tilting on each other no ? quite filmy ;)

    Also, nodding my head vigorously to everything you said..makes sense beyond (15-25) as well!! :)

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  78. Love love love this post! Many readers that to perceive bloggers has having a "perfect" life. I think most of them don't blog at all. I think blogging has changed the way we think and perceive people around us. My advice is to take whatever blog one reads, with a grain of salt :)

    Gorgeous photos, you, outfit and the last photo -- killed it, in a nice way :)

    http://kirantarun.com/blog

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  79. hello Tanvi,
    honestly, saying i love this post!
    thank you for sharing ur personal views,
    they are very much true...but its hard to apply the so called advices,,u know what i mean...
    but thanks for sharing, it is cool...i love ur writing rather than the fashion post..

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  80. wow-great that u feel so and even greater that u voiced it:-)

    you are a huge impression on readers Tanvi and i can imagine young girls swooning and pining to have a life like yours:-)

    the last pic is one of the cutest romance pics I have seen in many many days:-)

    and those heels-aaaaaah...i went to an amazing store today and almost bought myself one like that in black which was like 'sex on heels' but then gave up-i knew how my feet would curse me after 15 mins in them...sigh!:(

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  81. Love the leopard on yellow! I didn't know you were from San Antonio! I live in Austin for school but during the summers I go back to SA to be with my friends and family! Do you go to UTSA?

    :)
    xx

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  82. Tanvi you look soooo beautiful! I love the last pic. Love is beautiful!!!! You're blessed to have true love.

    On another note I see you finally got your dose of haters...it was only a matter of time because you are admired by many and they can't take it. Next time ignore them cause they want to get to you. Brush that dirt off your shoulders. Keep up the good work and don't sweat the small minute things.:) Love ya wise gal:)))))

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  83. Tanvi, you look wonderful and a great post!

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  84. I am all about standing up for oneself! Amazing post. Also fabulous outfit!


    XX!
    YvonnaLivianna
    YvonnaLivianna.blogspot.com

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  85. Great post!
    Always like the way you express yourself.Bag goes chic with the outfit:).
    Love you.

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  86. My dearest Tanvi your thoughts of life are always so realistic but at the same time so optimistic. I can never help myself not to like every observation of yours, and to be completely agreed!! This time is the same, great lines! And according to that- fantastic look!!:) Love this leopard print on u, and I love yellow!!:)
    Many many kisses and hugs!!;)
    Jelena
    http://glamfabchameleon.blogspot.com/

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  87. I might sound stupid but to tell you the truth, this post just made me realize that soon I won't belong to the 'lot of young girls (15-25 years)' :(

    Back to the topic, I was happy to see this post. After reading it, I am sure every reader must have picked up some points to remember, just like I did.

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  88. Lovely post and the last pic is the best!! Thanks for checking on me, i m doin fine. :)

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  89. Great look! I love the yellow & leopard

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  90. I know I personally make an effort to post about cheerful, fun, tasty happenings. My life is definitely not perfect but I prefer to share the nice things rather than the icky;) I could have a whole new blog for all those post, haha.....

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  91. great post Tanvi... there are positives and negatives in everyone's life...only because we dont see it...doesn't mean that their lives are perfect!!

    I'm almost drooling over your yellow pants! after all its my fav color and u are just rocking it!...thise feather extensions are soo cool!

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  92. Very well said, tans! :)

    I am quite amazed and happy to see how versatile you are in your blogging!

    One cant really typecast you as a fashion blogger only...Love the fact that you do so much more in your own little way.

    This blog was fantastic!

    Love. Keep going!!

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  93. PS. Last pic, super cute! :-)

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  94. How did I miss this post?!
    I am not in the age group for this post but I must confess that Perfection is highly overrated!
    Love the picture of you and husband kissing behind that Red clutch.

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  95. The points you highlighted were so so so true.. the second and the last one gets a +100... The photo in the PS was lovely, nice click... :) Read your post "Blogging is"... You don't have to listen to any such comments... I won't say you are self obsessed, however loving ourself is the best feeling in the world. You are original.. :) Loads of love...

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  96. love the last pic!

    I agree with you how blogs create a false impression esp. among young girls that life is all about shopping and fashion. Its very important to be financially independent and emotionally stable. Rest follows:-)

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