Don't take it personally! | Indian Woman Fashion, Fitness, Food, Style & Travel Photography Blog by Tanvi Rastogi

Don't take it personally!

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One of my pet-peeves is the use of the phrase - 'Do not take it personally'. I never understand why people use 'it'. I mean I do know why that phrase was created and what it means, but I do not think it is always used appropriately. Or may be I DO take everything personally but thankfully thats my prerogative. As far as I am concerned, if you are connected to me 'personally' [best friend, parents, husband, sibling] and end up saying/doing something hurtful, then I am sorry but I am going to take it personally. 

What I would not take 'personally' are the action of a stranger. Clearly, since he/she doesn't know me and doesn't have any emotional bond with me then there is no question of taking anything he/she does 'personally'. I am indifferent to their complete existence. 

Fair enough, right

Here I'm at the Gaylord Resort & Convention Center in National Harbor, MD
Top - Abercrombie & Fitch [10']
Shorts - Banana Republic [10']
Shoes - c/o Wanted [11']
Pendant - Etsy Store [11']

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68 comments

  1. I totally agree with your thoughts on taking something personally! IT IS PERSONAL! Very mature observation at such a young age! Keep it up and you will be successful at whatever you choose to do! Cheers!

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  2. I was totally going to blog on this, taking personally thing! Infact I found what exactly to say to people who use it. I will take it personally because I am "response able". I like these shoes! and I have similar shorts in a diff colour! :)

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  3. I am with you on this one Tanya! Why would someone say something rude and know that they are bring rude and then on top say - dont take it personally. Its like putting salt to a wound. (jalle pe namak thing) and very cute outfit, love the feather extension!

    xo Nav
    Nav Land Style

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  4. i agree with u Tanvii...good thoughts and nice wording ....
    i like ur hair style in witch u add weathers ....ur shoes design is unique i love that .......
    http://fashionstyle-pk.blogspot.com/

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  5. I like the picture where ur hairs flying! and grouchy rabbit is HILARIOUS

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  6. I sooo agree!!!!

    P.S: in love with those banana republic shorts, oh so cute <3

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  7. You've said it, girl!! People who don't matter don't deserve our "personal" attention! :)

    The grey & turquoise are looking lovely together...your feather extensions are super-cool!

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  8. Love this look on you Tanvi.. Stunningly beautiful. Shorts just look fab on you and should I say, this li'll dress was meant to be yours..... :)

    http://spotlessdiva.blogspot.com/
    http://chic-ilicious.blogspot.com/

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  9. your hair looks amazing and such a cute outfit. sometimes i don't take things friends do personally because i know its an issue that they haven and need to work out so i'm not personally offended..i let it slide if he or she is going through a hard time.

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  10. I love this easy summery outfit! Plus your hair looks so long in all these shots!
    I tend to only take things personally when it comes from my friends/family... how can you not?
    x.o.x.o

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  11. Such a relaxOH outfit! Hair SO long in these photos...

    don't take it personally...but :-p

    I think im going to print this Grouchy Rabbit pass and make a business card of it...easy to distribute :-p

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  12. i just luv ur pants........!they r just so nice .....:).....and luv ur hairs too......!

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  13. Yes "don't take it personally" means " I am just about to insult you"

    Love the spotty top. Is that feathers in your hair?

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  14. Your hair is looking exceptionally great here.Love the pedant so much.

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  15. Totally agree! Or the phrase : 'no offence, but...'. They definitely make no sense to use.

    Really love this outfit. The shorts and top are such a perfect combination. And your hair looks amazing in these pictures!

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  16. I love this look and the hairrrrrrr<3!
    And agree with the 'don't take it personally' part.

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  17. oh I take everything personally especially when a person utters these words

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  18. Hi Tanvii

    You look absolutely beautiful and I love the pictures which captured your hair blowing in the wind. I recently chopped my hair off and kept it above my shoulders and your pictures are making me ever so wish that my hair starts growing back asap!

    I also dislike the comment "don't take it personally" often what they have to say is taken personally...very personally!

    Have a great day! :)

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  19. you're right about the 'don't take it personal' thing. by the time they it, they are guilty already.

    i'm loving the cute outfit you have on today.

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  20. Such a dumb expression, sets my teeth on edge every time.
    Gorgeous summery outfit, your hair looks so lovely and long. x

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  21. You look all cool and breezy in these pics!!! Your hair is looking really good here too :-)
    Yes, its ridiculous when people say such things when it is always accompanied by something that is offensive or hurtful. Weird!

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  22. I genuinely adooorree the whole attire! and your hair looks GORGEOUS!!!!!! :D :D

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  23. I love those flats!! and your hair is getting so long:)

    xx

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  24. Thank you my dear friend. You look as fabulous as ever.
    I missed you.
    XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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  25. I completely agree about the phrase "don't take it personally." What a cop out. :P Anyway, love those shorts and the feather in your hair! So pretty!

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  26. For the most part, I too could care less about what complete strangers say or think, but when it comes to those close to me, I definitely wear my heart on my sleeve. Very well said dear! You are super cute in these photos...loving those shorts!

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  27. Well there are times when one has to take 'it' personally. If someone attacks you directly or indirectly, it is personal attack....

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  28. It's really hard to take my emotions out of a project at school sometimes. I can be good at hiding them, but the second someone says "Don't take it personally", it throws me off of my game! Because "don't take it personally" (or a variation) makes it sound like they KNOW I'm going to get emotional/get an "attitude" . I think assuming one's emotions before is rude. Also, a lot of people don't offer constructive criticism, and it's hard to take in a statement that does not offer a solution to better improve my work.
    My pet peeve statement is "No offense, but..." because it's totally irrelevant to the conversation. I think people should say how they feel and if it offends, then maybe they should rethink how they present their opinions (if being offensive was not their intention). The people receiving opinions should remember that an opinion is just that, a throw away, and the people they cherish are the ones that they should listen to the most, if they choose to do so.

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  29. So I must agree with your statement. The phrase doesn't hold much meaning according to me, especially when it comes from someone you care about. In any case, cute outfit! I am sucker for using different shades of the same color in one outfit :)

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  30. My pet peeve: when people say Take a chill pill or chill out. It is just so rude.

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  31. My pet peeve: when people say Take a chill pill or chill out. It is just so rude.

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  32. I completely agree with you. Every time someone uses that phrase, you can't help but to think what they are about to say will be offensive. I mean, why else would you want to warn someone to begin with, right? I think it's just another way to say, "what I'm about to say will be very offensive and come out bitchy, so I apologize in advance." Lol! :)


    Cute shorts Tanvii!

    xoxo,
    Mel

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  33. Oh I HATE that phrase! So annoying!! But I do love your outfit, and the scenery is beautiful!

    -Ellie

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  34. Ahhh look it is sunny with you and the light is so wonderful. And you are wearing shorts. I cant remember the last time I wore shorts. Maybe the beginning of July :-( I want it to warm again. Give me sunshine. Thanks for sharing yours. Xxxx

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  35. You're absolutely right.For me,it's just a little difficult to draw the fine line between people who can hurt me and people I don't care for.You've got your priorities right.Coming to the look,digging everything about this look!I've 'almost' the same pair of shorts in powder blue.I looked for Khaki or Steel Grey a lot but couldn't find any.:-(And I love the way your extensions add a dash of color to this look of yours.I've never loved it so much!

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  36. I had someone say that to me on my wedding day! I replied with something even nastier and then said, "Don't take it personally!" ... Live and learn I guess!

    Love the photos :)

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  37. These are beautiful fun pics and I'm loving your hair! I love the background and how stylish and comfy you look.
    I want to be like you and not take things personal. That is a very great place to be and I'm almost there.:)

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  38. Your hair is STUNNING in these photos. Especially in the second to last one. :)

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  39. I'm right there with you! And how fabulous you are looking in these photos. Those shorts, top and shoes are perfect! xoxo

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  40. Love this casual look on you! I totally know what you are saying about "don't take it personally." As hard as I try to be aloof and not take things personally, I always end up doing so. That's why when someone says "No offense or anything..." I immediately respond with "you're an asshole". I just try to beat them to the punch. HAHAH.

    xo.

    Angie

    thehotnessyourmommawarnedyouabout.blogspot.com

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  41. Ditto! I agree with your thoughts. I get that a lot, and its so frustrating.
    Love your ensemble - so cute :)

    http://kirantarun.com/blog

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  42. I find that phrase funny too because people usually sat that before launching a personal attack!
    Ahh well it is just one of those times when I try not to let the words get to me!

    xoxo,
    Chic 'n Cheap Living

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  43. agree with what you said regarding taking things personally.. and gosh you look so cute..

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  44. so fresh! and loving those shorts (do take it personally?!;P)

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  45. Anytime something is said to me it is 'Personal'. Saying it isn't, doesn't make it less hurtful!
    Love your hair in these shots. It has a caramel shine to it.

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  46. I love your oxfords--they are perfect with this outfit! xo

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  47. Don't take it personally, is such a dumb phrase, I bet whoever invented it must've had multiple personality disorder.

    I really like your tube! :)

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  48. ooo i love ur feminine side so much..

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  49. The hair is FAB and the hair extensions..just so cute! :)
    XX

    http://fortheloveoffashionandotherthings.blogspot.com

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  50. i am your new follower now.
    do follow me back cause i will be checking your blog time and again.
    http://silenceriver.blogspot.com/

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  51. You look pretty with the long straight hair. Like your pants. :)

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  52. Thanks so much for linking up to Monday Mingle over at Momtrends. I love the background of the pics and think your etsy necklace is fab!

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  53. Love a good pair of shorts! You look great!

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  54. You look so beautifully cute and chic in this outfit!

    Lots of love from Sydney,

    x Kel

    being a backstage diva

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  55. Oh your hair looks to pretty! I want to pet you! lol xo -Taj

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  56. The view is awesome, but I'm totally staring at your shoes! Love them!

    Emilie
    www.liveeatsmile.blogspot.com

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  57. yes hate the phrase too! But love the shorts and top. And wow your hair is getting long! I like it :)

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  58. "Personally" I love your sporty but chic look!:) Your hair is sooooo beautiful, healthy and shiny, perfect!:)) Enjoy your day my sweet Tanvi!! kisses
    Jelena
    http://glamfabchameleon.blogspot.com/

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  59. your hair looks amazzzziiiinnng in all the pics!!

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  60. Hmmmm...completely agree with that!
    And woo hoo! what an outfit...spunky sexy look!

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  61. ur hair looks so gorgeous and shiny!! love this outfit - perfect for summer..

    totally agree with you abt the personal phrase. I have to admit I am guilty of using it but I meant to insult the person I was talking to and just added the phrase to soften the blow..I am mean person, sob!!

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