How to avoid 'drama' in real life? | Indian Woman Fashion, Fitness, Food, Style & Travel Photography Blog by Tanvi Rastogi

How to avoid 'drama' in real life?

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You guys might remember Soomya, my sister-in-law from here. After reading my post last week, she asked me this ↑ question. And I thought what-the-heck let's make a post out of it. All these tips do not apply to you Soomya but Thank You for giving me an AWESOME opportunity to blatantly *advice* a lot of 'other' people I know, who could use these tips, but only if they realized they 'attract' drama, in the first place!

1. Be Honest - False praises and promises both will land you in trouble *drrraammmaaa*

2. Do not give advice unless asked for - No one likes to hear how they should lead their life. There is nothing worse than an 'unasked for advice'. It could land you right in between a cat-fight *drrraammmaaa*

3. NO! You do not know what is best for everyone around you - All of us think we know best how the world (which includes our friends and family) should operate, and what is wrong and what is right. Reality Check - You don't! God gave everyone brains for a reason and there IS something called destiny. 

4. Do not over-commit yourself - When you try to please everyone and be everywhere - all the time - you end up making a lot of people mad. Do not commit to more than what you can handle else *drrraammmaaa*

5. Prioritize - The solution to #4 would be to learn to prioritize. For example, Parent's anniversary comes before your girl friend's boy-troubles. Brother's birthday *should* come before a date with your boyfriend ... etc. etc. They seem like common sense but seldom are. When you don't prioritize, you create what?!?! That's right - *drrraammmaaa*

6. Choose - Diplomacy or Silence? As you grow up you realize that being frank and straightforward doesn't mean you blurt out everything that comes into your mind. You have two choices, either you learn to be diplomatic or if that route is too political for ya then learn to just shut-up! If you choose neither then you will always be part of - *drrraammmaaa* 

7. Mind your own business - Besides #2 you also that to learn to not poke your nose in ANYONE'S business. If it doesn't concern you then do not try to solve the problem. Let go of that Super-Man/Wonder-Woman Complex. You are not sent on this earth for a higher pupose or to solve the world's problems. Just focus on your own issues and you shall avoid the *drrraammmaaa*

8. Learn to say NO! - Now, this requires special skills 'coz even when someone asks for advice (#2) or is requesting you to poke your nose in their business (#7) you my friend have to be smart enough to recognize when to say NO! and politely retract yourself from the *drrraammmaaa*

9. Be Kind & Courteous - So far it might seem that you have to be a real cold-hearted-biatch to avoid the theatrics in life. That's not really the case. More often than not just by being compassionate yet firm you can keep yourself at an arm's distance from the *drrraammmaaa* ... Case in point - Not everyone is your best friend. You are not about to die for anyone. The world will not come to an end if you are not at the beg-and-call of each one of your friend. Maintaining a courteous distance can go a longgggggg way

10. Most importantly, don't gossip! This is pretty straightforward and doesn't require an elaboration. This nicely brings together and concludes all the above points in two words - No Gossip ... which will leave to -> No *drrraammmaaa*

The End!    

These pictures were taken at The Japanese Tea garden, over the weekend
Tee - Won via a Giveaway at BonBonGirls [11']
Shorts - Rachel Roy via Macy's [11']
Necklace - blakegodbold accessories [11']
Shoes - Via a Giftcard won at TxSCC [11']
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74 comments

  1. firstly...I love what you have written up there...in fact i always love what u write...

    and i love your outfit...
    love the shirt,the shorts n those gorgeous shoes...

    very very pretty<3

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  2. ooohhh that necklace is so pretty on u Tanviiii!!!

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  3. very well said.There is no escape from the drama until one stop bugging other's life for anything and live practically as no one can make the world happy. The last point mostly is the reason foe the big dramas.. hahaha

    beautiful outfit. love the shorts a lot. SHOES ARE as sexy as always.

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  4. Before i comment about the actual post, I have to say this, you are a stunner, I really loved the second picture!

    No gossip is the tried and tested method to avoid any drama. Gossiping is simply wrong and a sheer wastage of time and energy.

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  5. Most adorable outfit ever award via Frannie Pantz! Love this outfit and what a fantastic post and so true! I have some real problems saying no sometimes, but it is necessary for you and others' sanity!

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  6. I love that necklace T! And drama is something I loathe too.

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  7. Those are some great ways to avoid drama :) Cute outfit, I love the shoes!
    -Adriana<3
    http://thelittlepetite.blogspot.com/

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  8. This outfit is too good! Its simple but there is something extremely attractive about it! Love the tee!

    #6 and #8 are so true!

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  9. Ahahahahahaha. I love this post! :-)
    Another tip I follow.
    Avoid like the plague ALL people who like draaaaaaaaammmmaaaa, even if they are immediate family!
    Hehe.
    You look stunning my dear.

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  10. You so beautiful in the second picture :) love the bib so pretty!

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  11. I like this look! the necklace changes it entirely!

    I think I am very weak on #6... I excel at #8!

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  12. such a cute outfit!! u look adorable Tanvi...

    I really need to learn to say No!! still working on it..

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  13. Beautiful and wise!! Congrats Tanvi! It took me ages, but I've learned to.... shut up! Have a lovely day! :)

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  14. I think this post is rather dramatic, lol

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  15. excellent tips but a bit hard to follow everything you know
    the necklace is simply wow

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  16. Great tips...but I guess you can't completely keep drama out of your life...maybe in small doses, it does make life that much more interesting :-)....And that necklace is very pretty, I haven't really seen one like that anywhere!!

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  17. Such a great idea to wear a super dressy necklace with a casual top! Ah drama, I seriously feel someone people get off on drama and enjoy having dramatic moments. Especially in their love lives! Well, I for one enjoy other people's drama..never my own!

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  18. great advice. i'm loving the last picture.

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  19. Somebody enjoyed (beside looking fabulous) the last weekend!;) I love the stripes, and sunglasses are fantastic! Btw I love these tips!;)
    kisses
    Jelena
    http://glamfabchameleon.blogspot.com/

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  20. Awesome tips, gorgeous outfit, beautifully photographed...you made my morning Tanvi:) Hugs!

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  21. your necklace is so pretty!

    and i definitely don't want any drama in my life, so i'll take heed of all your tips:)

    xx

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  22. :) :) :)

    Oh..my god..is it possible to avoid drama in life..

    For a while we cant be honest, i think so..when we need to tell a lies

    But, in india people are more born to give only advices

    As comes to best..again its a critical view....we need to criticize..than only we can know what is better.

    And as comes to commitment....is it possible for a person who already committed..

    And please excuse me as i havent got much time to review other 6 tips..

    Truely, if i need to say..i prefer 'DRAMA' more in life..

    Anyway..nice post from your side..

    And this is the first time i visited your blog..

    keep up the good work..

    :) :) :)

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  23. i simply think dt dis post will be one of my 'look back' to this wenvr i m stuck wid such situations... nu r absolutely right we cnt be pleasing evryone arnd u isnt possible so its bttr to maintain distance n be courteous...i wish i wa smart enuff to say no n avoided d DRAMA in my life !! bt its nvr too late to learn !!! :) thankss bhabhi !!! ur d best LOve ya ...
    P.s the outfit is so hot .. n i love d neckpieceee !!<3

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  24. I love the look and love the stripes ! :)

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  25. Check out your bod, Tanvi! You are looking hot.
    I've never been a drama queen and avoid spending time with those that are. Life's too short. x

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  26. the close up of your picture shows how pretty your eyes really is. loving the shorts btw, those are my kind of shorts. :-)

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  27. I LOVE this post, really!
    You look SO SO SO SO SO fabulous in the second picture, make it your picture on FB :)
    So pretty!

    www.arty-heart.blogspot.com

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  28. Couldn't agree more with your tips and I love your outfit! The scenery is so pretty, too!

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  29. So true! I try to follow some of these tips (like being diplomatic) as opposed to just reacting. It can be hard when someone else is playing games or acts nasty first. But we can still be somewhat civilized and just state the truth right?

    xoxo,
    Chic 'n Cheap Living

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  30. How awesome are those drama free tips! You did a great job writing them, love your necklace!

    Cess O. <3 Cess O. <3 The Outfit Diaries

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  31. I think I can relate most to num 8 ... I simply cannot say no and it lands me in all sorts of trouble! Must learn to draw the line somewhere.

    Gayatri
    http://doubleexpat.blogspot.com/

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  32. this is such a cute look on you. it's probably one of my faves!

    #6 is the one that resonates with me. i was being diplomatic with a friend for a long time (in order to avoid any drama), but then she did something that really bothered me and i just couldn't hold it in any more--so i was quite frank with her. i think our friendship is different now, but i feel better knowing that it's a completely honest friendship.

    Thanks for voting for me!

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  33. Good advice and gorgeous outfit. The necklace looks so good with that tee.

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  34. Tanvi,

    My heartfelt condolences. May God bless her soul with eternal peace and may her blessings be with all of you forever. I lost my DADI as well as NANI when I was away. Very sane advice in this post. I agree with all, specially the last one.

    Take care

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  35. Oh my Tanvi! your posts are so entertaining. I can definitely be accused on # 4 and at times #1.

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  36. Your 'tips' are great!I'm such a drama queen!So,for me,they'll come handy every minute!But I'm so used to behaving like this,life seems so hard without dddddddddrrrrrraaaaaaaammmmmmmmaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!I'll try though because I know you've my best interests at heart.;-)

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  37. Perfect points and u look hot as ever. Love the simple and effortless look.

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  38. Love this whole outfit! The shorts with the red and white are fantastic!

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  39. I agree with your drama-free list! It's all about being honest and respectful to others.


    xoxo,
    Mel

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  40. great advice Tanvi! Love the neckline of your gorgeous top. the entire outfit is smashing!
    P.S. I'm sorry about what's going on in Mumbai...

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  41. great advice. and that necklace is lovely!

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  42. Those shorts are the best! Great length and cut and a nice twist on regular denim. You look summer chic :)

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  43. GREAT advice! I have a few drama-laden friends who I had to make a conscious decision to ZIP my lips with! It's ended up being the best decision for me, my friends, AND my marriage.

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  44. so true..you have always the best advices.

    http://cactusandcucumber.blogspot.com

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  45. Good post.
    I agree with one, four, and eight.

    windowshopz.com

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  46. Such great tips! I love this look on you, you look wonderful in stripes. Hope you're enjoying your day!

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  47. Really love you look today. And that necklace wow. Also good advice to keep your life drama free. Xxxx

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  48. This is my favorite look of yours! Oh and i love the advice, "learn to say no", I feel like i am learning that and it has really helped me!


    asktheduplex

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  49. I love that necklace on you, and the fab shoes!

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  50. Fun top! Totally agree with your points -- especially people minding their own business! xo style, she wrote

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  51. Planning to print this and keep in my purse! :) I totally agree with you, drama leads to many problems. And the list you've made here, is superb to stay away from ALL the drama in life! loved it. you are the best!! xx

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  52. You look adorable! And learning to say no is clutch!

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  53. I love what you have written! Sometimes you can't avoid some situation no matter how hard you try! Great write up!

    Love your outfit dear!

    xoxo
    Stella

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  54. those were great tips .. i m also trying to learn when to avoid some one's( so called friends') mindless draaamaaabazi to disturb my mental peace..
    p.s. love the outfit you look fab ...

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  55. As always I love your wise words.
    You look extremly beautiful! Red against your skin is perfection!!!! :)))

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  56. i love love love your shorts Tanvi!! and those are some great pointers you've put up on avoiding drama in real life...now all i've to do is make the people who create the drama around me read it :P :P

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  57. Aahh, beautiful Tanvi, I think your tips are all great. Is it okay though if I choose to stay my flattering, gossiping and sometimes bitching self if I actually do like a bit of drama in my life? xo

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  58. Awesome post there Tanvi! I realised I follow most of these *rules* [;)]!

    Keep writing! :)

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  59. That is a brilliant post and so true. I always thing that the best is to stay away from drama and only give advice when asked:) You look beautiful in your stripes, sunshine. Have a great day
    Muah

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  60. i totally agree that being honest is one of those easiest way to avoid trouble ! yet being honest aint that easy as well.. i love ur wedges !

    www.glisters and blisters.com

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  61. Very Good Advice Tanvi ... i love your outfit. Nice Watch .

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  62. fabulous as always Tanvi!!!the advice couldn't be more apt! and the bib is to dieeee!!!!

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  63. This post is perfect! I had no clue college would be as dramatic as high school, but I guess I was wrong! Lovin' this outfit!
    Ellie

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  64. those are bang-on right pointers Tanvi-and my god those 5 inches less are showing n how*wolf whistles*
    :-)

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  65. Wait...but I"m ALWAYS right! ;-)

    How can I not give advice?

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  66. Fabulous advice, love! I was nodding my head to every single one :) Love your Beateau Tee. It's fabulous :)

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  67. great post! and those shorts are fab

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  68. Can I add one more..never try to prove anything to anyone..can help you maintain peace of stupendous quality :D

    I love the top btw :)

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  69. All the points make so much sense...
    I think we both know where my drama starts and ends :-p

    The top is awesome!

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  70. Hey Tanvii! Although Im known as The Drama Queen in my friend's circle, I really don't believe in creating unnecessary drama! Totally agree with all your tips to lead a drama-free life! Although, I think a little drama adds a little spice to life, don't you?!

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  71. Thankyou for sharing this esp. - 7. Mind your own business - Besides #2 you also that to learn to not poke your nose in ANYONE'S business. If it doesn't concern you then do not try to solve the problem. Let go of that Super-Man/Wonder-Woman Complex. You are not sent on this earth for a higher pupose or to solve the world's problems. Just focus on your own issues and you shall avoid the *drrraammmaaa*


    I am surprised that you too have been through this- I mean have come to this understanding...well I guess everyone comes to it and yes offcourse, thanks for being so clear about " So far it might seem that you have to be a real cold-hearted-biatch to avoid the theatrics in life. That's not really the case."

    :)

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