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Happiness is a state of Mind

1:01 AM

You know how people say if you want something to happen, you really need to want it badly? I believe in the opposite, if you want something then let it be ... and if it is worth it then it will happen! By no means do I mean that you should sit on your ass and indulge in wishful thinking. What I mean is, do not let your happiness be dependent on any one thing/person. My father has always taught us [I always say 'us' 'coz me and my brother often got these lessons together so I have a habit of always using the word 'us'] that your hard work and positivity should focus on what you want but your happiness and mental peace should be independent of the outcome. 

Though I am very anal about small things in life [like I need everything to be in order at.all.times!] but when it comes to the major life altering changes, I am quite adaptive. I never let my happiness be pinned upon any one thing or person. To be happy is really a decision and not a by product of an activity or possession. Even my prayers are diplomatic - Dear God, if you think that 'xyz' is good for me then please help me get it 'coz I am kinda crazy about it but in your wise judgement if you think it is not 'good' for me then I will understand if I do not get it. - So, how smart am I?

The point I am trying to make is that life is a journey towards your goals and ambitions. They all cannot come true in one month or year! You add them, like feathers in your cap, one by one ... over a lifetime!   

Men's Shirt & a Lace Skirt  
Outfit Inspiration via Lazymanxcat
Pictures courtesy my brother aka TJ Photography






Shirt - From Men's Aisle @ Marshalls [10']; Skirt - Gift [Megha 06']; 
Black Lace Pumps - Dolce Vita [10']; Belt - Borrowed from my Brother

That's Richa, who did my make up for the shoot!


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74 comments

  1. I love love love love love love LOVE (I beat you in the 'Loves' :) this outfit, these photos and your expressions and 'look' and YOU!

    LOVE.

    ...and damn woman! Those are some killer heels! I am otally impressed by your balancing act on the broken slabs!

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  2. Um... that's "Totally"... see? I got so excited by this post I'm lost for words!!

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  3. True. It is difficult to remain oblivious to stuff in life and be happy all the time, but then that's the fun in the challenge no ? Making most out of stuff at hand and anticipating and accepting stuff that one wishes for and gets ;)

    And the outfit has a retro feel to it! You look like one of those old movie stars. Totally saxy! :D

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  4. I never knew what my prayer should be. I found it now! And I don't think it's diplomatic, it's perfect, because it is all about faith eventually! Also, wow those heels! Like the skirt, agree with Yamini, very old movie starish :)

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  5. ...and so excited... I actually forgot to comment about the actual post and the message.

    "...do not let your happiness be dependent on any one thing/person.."

    ABSOLUTELY agree. I do believe that you should go get what you want and what you believe will make you happy but I also believe you have got to be content NOW. Today. As is. Discarding the wants and nbeeds and desires, etc. Happy is a choice and yes, it starts from a decision.

    I also...esoterically... believe that when you are desperate about wanting something and believe that your whole reason for being relies on it...it eludes you.

    Also... WOW!! I just noticed your readers!! 314!! That is wonderful honey!

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  6. oh how I agree with this post I totally believe happiness is a decision and you have to be happy with the way things are and not be dependent on something to work out to be happy, life is short and if you start waiting for happiness to come you will always be waiting for it.
    your sis has done a fab job in make up depart

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  7. There was a time when i was younger and used to wish and pray to God for specific things.. i guess i was too young to understand that it doesnt work that way. Now my prayers only have 'Thank yous' :) and i like it that way...

    Love the dress.. unusual combination but you made it work :)

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  8. Hey Tanvi,
    Could not agree with your views more... I let life surprise me...
    That skirt is lovely. I love the unusual pairing, and you rock it. Your sis is lovely.

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  9. wow! loved the makeup!
    I agree, happiness is lost the moment you start pursuing it!

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  10. You gorgeous you love this skirt.....I WANT it :P
    you looking ravishing :)

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  11. the words that open up this post totally resonate with the state i am in right now. i have worked so hard to try to pass this one course and exactlt when i gave up on it it started to be all better. hopefully it will continue this way.
    xoxo
    mina

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  12. Hey,a silent reader here and this post made me feel so good because I was kind of down today.The concept of working towards what we want but not pinning all our happiness on it,definitely rings a bell :).

    Also,you're doing a great job with outfits and you have worked hard to get to your trim self.It would be nice if on some days you document all that you eat,your meal plans etc to give us little more boost and help your readers attain a good body.

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  13. Happy Birthday, Mr Tanvi!
    Love the combination of plaid and lace, works perfectly! xxx
    PS Your sister is beautiful, like you.

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  14. U look fab in that skirt and those killer heels.

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  15. You're so gracefully pulling off this look! :) Absolutely HOT Tanvi! :)
    XX

    http://fortheloveoffashionandotherthings.blogspot.com

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  16. Now this is what I needed to read today. So many great points you make here and your pictures are fabulous.

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  17. Ah you are so wise. I agree, things happen when and if they are meant to be. God in his/her infinite wisdom makes wise choices for us, even if us mere mortals don't see it always. There are some things we badly want and sometimes the need for something makes us blind to whether said thing is even worth it or not.

    Ah adore the lace skirt. And props to you for the balacing act. Very very cool!

    Happy birthday brother of Tanvi :) you take lovely pictures of your lovely sister :)

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  18. Ohhh, how I LOOOOVE that lace skirt! I desperately want one too!

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  19. ooh, 2 things i couldnt imagine looking goo together!
    <3 it!
    The shoes are HOT!

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  20. Hey Tanvi thanks for dropping by my blog and commenting :) Smokey eyes look fab on you. sassy pics ;)

    www.kavisto.blogspot.com

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  21. The whole look is just gorgeous Tanvi... The black see through skirt is to die for
    Lee x

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  22. love the shoes...they r insanely tall and i like that... cute shirt too... xoxo

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  23. I definitely agree with you here, there's no point letting your happiness depend on getting one thing. I usually like to let things work out the way the way they will (with only a slight push from myself).

    I really love the outfit. The skirt is really beautiful. I love the length of it. And your shoes are incredible.

    Your sister is definitely really adorable and Happy Birthday to your brother.

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  24. Happy birthday Tanuj! Your looks strikes me as very classic Texan - rugged and fun!

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  25. Very well said! Love the mixed up style of this outfit too:)

    xx

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  26. This outfit is so great! I'm totally in love with that skirt. I've been looking for a great belt or some time now and I'm really liking the one you're wearing, too funny that it's your brothers!

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  27. @Tanvi,

    Really liked your prayer to GOD. I am going to do the same. Very nice post.

    Happy Birthday to your brother Tanuj

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  28. I LOVE checked mens shirts.........& that lace skirt is awesome as are the killer heels!!! You are looking stunning lady - kudos to your sis for the lovely make-up!!! :)
    And is this THAT brother whose pic you had posted on the blog earlier??? ;)
    Anyways, Happy B'day fellow piscean!!! :))

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  29. LOVE THE SHIRT!
    PRETTY PLAID COLORS ARE THE BEST!!


    http://heyymisterr.blogspot.com/2011/03/thrifty-thrifter.html


    YOU ARE THE BEST! :]

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  30. Tanvii, I like this outfit alot.
    The colors of the shirt go well with the black dress and shoes, and the belt tops it off.
    Good job.

    windowshopz.com

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  31. Pretty shirt. And, boy, you could kill a man with those heels!

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  32. This post was truly beautiful. I am taking your words to heart and will try to live my life by them as much as I can.

    And you look amazing.....this outfit is full of contrasts but so beautiful.

    Happy Birthday to Tanuj too. :)

    Love

    Tashrin

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  33. gosh babe .. you spoke my heart .. I keep on telling myself this .. and am trying my best to do this..

    love your look.. so chic..

    happy buhdday to your handsome brother...

    and your sis looks adorable..

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  34. So many things to say
    1) You have a sister!!! you never mentioned her before!!I need you to send me ur family tree right away:-)

    2) Happy bday to ur brother!!

    3) I love the last para you wrote abt life being a journey and everything cant come true in one day. So true. Doesnt the Gita say that do ur dharma, happiness will follow? I totally believe in that!

    4) Love ur outfit. I want this skirt. I am serious. Please mail it to me right now! I will lose weight as well as gain height to wear this gorg thing!!

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  35. happy..birthday to your Bro..
    I like the shirt you wore!
    Tc..keep smiling!

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  36. I totally love what you said about life being a journey. I so agree with that, sweetie. Such a pretty outfit and happy birthday to your brother:) Hugs and kisses

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  37. U look beautiful tanvi. Lovr the makeup on u.

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  38. Great post my wise dear friend! I love how diplomatic you are in prayer! lovely. And lovely skirt! xoxo

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  39. I can't express how much i LOVE this outfit! You look amazing! So inspiring as always. And happy bday to your brother and your sister is adorable! :) xoxo

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  40. Wise words indeed. Life is a journey although I have to admit I find it difficult to deal with disappointment even though it always leads on to better things.
    Another great outfit :-)

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  41. Happy birthday to Tanuj.

    Those shots are awesome and today its almost like you are psychic. Those are just the words I needed to hear today. Thank you!!!

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  42. Happy Birthday to Tanuj! And happiness definitely is a state of mind! Love your lace skirt. How could you not be happy wearing that?! xo style, she wrote

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  43. you look sooo pretty! your sis did a great job with the make up!!

    happy birthday to your bro. he's very talented. the pics have come out amazing.

    happiness is totally a state of mind. some people have everything (material & emotional etc) but are so unhappy whereas i know some who have very little in their lives but make the most of it, and are always thankful and happy.

    you have such a great outlook and attitude to life which is wonderful :)

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  44. Hiii! I've been doing a lot better since work has finally calmed down a bit! :D

    PS - Very good words of wisdom!! That's something I definitely had to learn when work was taking over my life. I realized that I couldn't let it be the only thing that I focused on or determine whether or not I had a good day.

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  45. You goddess you! I'm very smitten with this look and i loeyour mesage in this post-well said! happy b'day to your brother and your sis is adorable! XX

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  46. Thats a great skirt! I never would have thought to pair it with that top. You look lovely.

    xoxo
    Stacey Kay
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  47. stunning skirt, and you look so beautiful in these pics!!! your sis is a cutie :)

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  48. Aahh, your dad is a wise man and your 'pragmatic spiritualism' is quite wonderful - as is the combination of the man's shirt and lace skirt.
    A very Happy Birthday to Tanuj from me, too!

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  49. LOVE <3 the maxi skirt and your pointed needle pumps !
    you look really gorgeous !

    glisters and blisters

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  50. i like soooooo much your thoughts about happiness,u're one wise,young,beautiful and extremely stylish lady!!!!!:)))
    kisses

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  51. You are one stylish girl! I lov how you have assembled two different pieces. Love your eye make up! Great job by your sister.

    I pray the exact same way. Ever since I heard Amitabh Bachchan quote that-"'Man Ka Ho To Achha, Man Ka Na Ho To Aur Bhi Achha" I have changed my perception about being happy/sad with the decisions in my life. This quote was a seriously a life changer. Nice post!

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  52. Amen! I couldn't agree more. This is a lesson I am constantly trying to teach my husband who gets really down anytime things don't go as planned. He's learning....SLOOOOWLY!

    Anyway, your skirt is gorgeous!!! Lovely photos!

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  53. wonderful post, Tanvi. i definitely agree with you that life is a journey--gotta enjoy it and not worry too much, or at least try.

    the lace skirt is heaven--and i'm in love with the shoes as well. this is a lovely profile photo.

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  54. Oh, that skirt is just lovely!

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  55. wow i love your skirt!! ok the skirt is amazing too- great colours!

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  56. These photos are GORGEOUS!! Your makeup is amazing and your outfit is soo cute..you look beautiful!! Happy birthday to your brother...and sister?? whaaaaaaat? Cousin or real? See this is why I say you are full of surprises!!

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  57. Amazing outfit! I am still learning to enjoy the journey instead of being so impatient haha!

    XX
    Jessie
    http://87life.blogspot.com

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  58. oh your sister is too cute and love your long lace skirt. I can't wait to wear more items like this and hope to find some cute pieces tomorrow on my shopping adventure. Great pics and happy birthday to your brother!

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  59. Ohhh yes! Best and shoes are fierce!
    xxx tash

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  60. BEAUTIFUL! Love that skirt! :) <3

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  61. Great outfit! Great life philosophy!

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  62. Love the look!
    And i already told you how gorgeous you look in this post! <3

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  63. These photos look like they should be in a magazine! They are beautiful. I love everything about this photoshoot!!!

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  64. You make super sense to ME so many times when I need to be shaken up about certain aspects of life! :) And girl i love your Killer heels!!!

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  65. This is a wonderful post! I see we share the same thoughts on life. Love the skirt!

    -YvonnaLivianna
    A tout le monde: Yvonnalivianna.blogspot.com

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  66. This was such a lovely post, both in terms of the visual inspiration and the written inspiration. I love your outlook, it was the perfect thing to read on a day that was somewhat taking me down. And your outfit is completely divine! I love the unexpected combination of the skirt and top. And of course, those shoes! Gorgeous.

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  67. That is one stunning outfit and photo-shoot! the skirt is pure love!

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  68. Both the girls in the photographs are beautiful!!!!

    Oh My God! Tanuj's photography mindblowing, your combination is Wonderful,Makeup is Attractive and the Poses/Expressions are mesmerizing..You look beautiful! Simply Beautiful.

    I really like what you have written. It's so true and a wonderful reminder of beliefs...Happiness is here where your are if you want it to be.

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  69. Love this look! Where did you shoot this? I think I'm just as fascinated by your locations as I am by your outfits. Gorgeous! XOXO, krista

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