Illusion of Perfection | Indian Woman Fashion, Fitness, Food, Style & Travel Photography Blog by Tanvi Rastogi

Illusion of Perfection

1:01 AM

Dressed for a dinner at home! 
Kaftan - Hand-me-down from Anita; Leggings - BCBG [09']; 
Juttis (Shoes) - From Amritsar [11']


I have realized recently that everyone has an image about each other according to their version of "expectations". We are all gauging each other's actions as per what we think is the right way to exist. It is easier in the professional world or where there is a book of etiquettes (provided one has read it!), for there are a set guideline to operate within. But in life woven with intricate relationships everyone is 'apparently' walking on pins and needles. 

Being an opinionated and judgmental person myself, I am not free from this disease either. But since I am on a unsaid struggle for life to survive on my own terms, I have started focusing all my energies on myself. I have decided to give up the illusion of perfection and simply live by being myself. Even the thought of trying to be someone else's "version of existence or expectation" is way more stressful than the actual struggle of staying true to myself. 

If it all went over your head and you didn't understand then do not worry about it, we'll hopefully be back to happy and merry life stories tomorrow. And just in case you got it, then 'Hang in there!' This too shall pass...

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48 comments

  1. I think I got the hang ofwhat you are saying and truly being 'yourself' takes the least effort and is the best route to take.

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  2. +1 for the post, the outfit and the shoes.
    What you said needs no validation. Be true to yourself and rest will fall into place.

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  3. Its a tough battle... We all want to 'be ourselves' but at the same time we want that to match the other person's 'expectations' and be accepted by them. Kind of a deadlock :)

    But in the end staying true to who you really are is all that matters.

    I like the way you styled the Kaftan :)

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  4. Great idea! It's much better to live by being yourself and not by someone elses/society's version. I hope that's what you meant. If not, it definitely went over my head.

    the kaftan is really beautiful. I love the sleeves on it.

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  5. Posing on the treadmill! I love it! :P
    It's hard to live up to expectations... everyone else's as well as your own.

    Leia

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  6. Trying to be someone else's idea of perfect is the shortest route to maligning the very essence of who you are and why you're here. I am glad you realized it sooner than later, I took really long to see this.

    As for the dress I like the kurti but the bling leggings dont work me here. I'd perhaps have a lil more blingy tunic n team it with a 3/4th legging like the one you're wearing.

    With the beautiful kurti that you sport here I'd have just gone for simple white leggings - or anything that doesnt take the focus off from the tunic. :)

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  7. Expectations! That mind-boggling, forever-disappointing demon!!! It's always best to be yourself.....& let others be too... :)

    By the way, what a lovely lovely kaftan!!! :))

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  8. I get what you're trying to say here..We get so absorbed with our own perception that we fail to see something beyond that image we have created in our minds..

    Anyhoo..The kaftan is GORGEOUS!!! & posing on a treadmill! NICE!!

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  9. Love love the kaftan! And the shiny tights *wheeeeeeeeee*! :)
    XX

    http://fortheloveoffashionandotherthings.blogspot.com

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  10. Smart insight. I'm glad you arrived at it so early in life. We should enjoy our lives and what we can make of them, not bemoan the impossible or feel bad about not doing what others want us to do.

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  11. living true to urself is probably the hardest thing to do...I try, and I guess I am more equipped to try now that I think I know myself better than I did...I love the kaftaan btw!

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  12. amen to living life in one's own terms. we do get bogged by the expectations and sometimes it can pull us to the bottomest pit no doubt! however, it is ur more subtle "this too shall pass" which should be in BOLD so life goes on... (with or without the perfection:) like ur kaftan btw, and hey, u r still smiling:)))

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  13. I love that you posed on the treadmill!

    Well, nobody's perfect, and I've learned to embrace even my imperfections. Life's really too short to worry about other people's expectations:)

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  14. You're the first blogger I've ever visited who poses on a treadmill. Tanvi, you are a true individual.
    xxx

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  15. Why can't ppl just live and let live?!!

    Love the Kaftan btw :)

    http://huesofpink.blogspot.com

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  16. Beautiful kaftan! Be yourself! Never live to only please others :-) happy early valentine's although I know you don't care much for it! Hehe

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  17. Aren't hand-me-downs the best thing :)

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  18. agreed, absolutely. the older i get, i realize i can only be the best "me", and not compare myself against other people or their expectations. hard to do it practice, but worth trying.

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  19. exactly,i agree with u...only by being yourself and following your own truth u can give the most to the world!;)
    u look pretty!:)

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  20. I, Me, Myself.. always works...as long as we aren't being malicious or evil...seriously, we will never be perfect because everybody has their own definition...and i think our definition of OUR self is the best one ever! na?

    Kaftan looks so nice on you :-)

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  21. Um, I love that you are standing on a treadmill!

    And you are a very thoughtful person...

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  22. kaftan is paired up beautifully with the leggings <3

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  23. You can't make everyone happy and live according to their notions of perfection even if you tried...it's a lot easier to just be yourself!

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  24. i think make oneself happy should be the only aim! anyway we cannot be in everybody's good books :):)

    btw...your Kaftan is awesome and the outfit is very nicely pulled together :):), you look lovely s always!!

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  25. love this post and what you wrote. such great inspiration. btw, i love your flats! xo

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  26. You look lovely Tanvi...loved the Kaftan!!

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  27. Very interesting. I totally think that staying true to yourself is the way to go. Btw: Love your outfit
    Muah, sweetie

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  28. I love the kaftan styled Kurtha very classy , your leggings reminds me of mine in the same fabric but skin color , every time i wore it people thought i wasn't wearing any pants ,it was kind of hilarious :)

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  29. The Kaftan is gorgeous! Love the print!
    and I love how you write your heart out, It's a pleasure to read!

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  30. Always be yourself darling!

    Cute and casual outfit!

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  31. Hi Tanvi, you are a piscean too and now I can connect the dots.... I really agree a lot with you thoughts.....love the way you put them up on the blog....

    " Even the thought of trying to be someone else's "version of existence or expectation" is way more stressful than the actual struggle of staying true to myself.
    What you said hits the bullseye....feels great to know you via blogging....when is your b'day mine is on feb 27th :)

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  32. Kaftan is very pretty. :)

    And you know that I'm not very judgemental so as long as anyone is nice to me, in their own ways, I'm good. If they are not, I just don't care and pay less or no attention to them. :)

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  33. Love the kaftan!! who wants to be perfect..being imperfect is waay more fun, no? jokes aside, you have to be true to yourself to be truly happy:-) Dont let them get to you!! come back!!

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  34. Love your look and posing on the treadmill.
    I do think that we need to dress, how we want to and what makes us feel happy.

    Hugs
    Carolyn

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  35. Great post. Love staying true to myself always!!! Did I mention you look spectacular!!! You do.:)Always.

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  36. So true..."Be yourself cause everyone else is taken!"
    Happy Valentines!

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  37. I just love your kaftan, sweetie. It's gorgeous! xoxo

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  38. great writing babe.. I am earnestly trying to be myself and have to admit that I am improving day by day ..

    P.S.- what fab kaftan ..

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  39. Very cool pairing that tunic with the liquid look leggings. xo style, she wrote

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  40. Love the outfit and some great words of wisdom too. Hope you had a fab Valentine's Day!

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  41. i think it's great that you're giving up that "illusion of perfection". a lot of new articles have been sprouting up lately about how facebook and certain types of blogs can lower a person's self esteem because they feel like they cannot live up to the seemingly perfect lives of others.

    two thumbs up.

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  42. I couldn't agree more.. If you have to make yourself seem perfect for someone to accept you, then they are so not worth it!

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  43. The kaftan kurta is awesome and looks very, very comfy. Could definitely be worn just by itself too...
    Meetu D

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  44. i love that kaftan!!!
    this too shall pass has become a daily mantra for me now it would seem..

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