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Think Before You Speak

1:01 AM

The India trip is turning out to be a little different this time around. There isn't much drama, no one is getting on my nerves, and surprisingly I do not have any spicy stuff to write about. So has the world changed or has my tolerance for idiocies gone up? [I am betting on myself ;)]. 

Oh! wait ... there is something after all, that I can whine about - People's inability to gauge what should and shouldn't be said in public - Most people [the talkative ones] once they start, they really do not know when to stop. Let me put a disclaimer here again - I am a talkative one too but I am quite certain that I do not talk non sense and you guys have no way of knowing if I am saying the truth, so lets roll with it! ;) One simple fact I have picked up with 'age' and 'time' is that better to stay quiet than to talk to an idiot! No point in arguing with people who are mentally unequipped to think straight. No one can change your opinions so why even bother to prove them to anyone else. If you know you are right (and are making a valid point) then regardless of anyone else's opinion, you will be right. You do not need anyone else's stamp of approval! 

I have come to realize that it is a waste of time to talk to people who are loud and who use their 'volume' as a means to make themselves heard. Long story short, I wish everyone took a moment to 'think' before they spoke, and not just blurt every random thought that came to their mind ... Not that hard ... is it?

15th January 2011
Shirt Dress - Banana Republic [10']; Leggings - Hue [10']
Pashmina - Mom's ; Leg Warmer - UO [09']; Flats - Guiseppe Zanotti [11']

 16th January 2011 (Day)
Shirt - Men's Section @ Marshall's [10']; Jumper - Ralph Lauren [09']
3/4 Jeans - ASOS [10']; Pashmina Scarf - Mom's ; Shoes - Puma [06']
P.S. For the Night outfit Click Here.

17th January 2011
Shirt - COS [10']; Leggings - UO [10']
Pashmina Scarf - Mom's ; Flats - Guiseppe Zanotti [11'] 

18th January 2011
Striped Shirt - Zara [06']; 3/4 Jeans - ASOS [10']
Heart Sweater - Joy [10']; Shoes - Puma [06']


20th January 2011
Turtle Neck - Mango [05']; Jacket - Banana Republic [06']
Skirt - J.Crew [11']; Tights - Hobbs [10']; Shoes - Dolce Vita [10']

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59 comments

  1. ha! such telepathy I think last week or so itself I wrote a mail to a friend saying how people increase their volume because they think they can make a point that way. I think I've learnt to stop talking to a lot of people as well...but I've learnt to get entertained by some fruitless conversations (when I don't have a choice) also...I love the looks, esp dig the 17th jan look love the background of the picture as well! :)

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  2. Hmmm... Sorry wasn't here since a time..
    Oh so you're in india.. Welcome ji welcome :)
    oh yeah.. Agree many ppl don't know when to speak what... Not just in india its a phenomenon all over... Just lil personified over here.

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  3. Wow!! The dressing up looks fun...

    I love the purple tight looks..the top is soo NICE and CHIC.

    The heart sweater looks so happy and in your 'dressed to kill' outfit, i love the black and white checked jacket...

    FUN FUN FUN..i wanna see more!


    As for thinking before speaking...that's a rare commodity...I only wonder whether they actually hear the echo of their 'nonsense' and later come to regret it or bite their tongue? You think? Or the words are just bubbling out and bursting in front of their victim's ear.. before THE TALKER can even understand the real "meaning" or implication" of their comments..???

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  4. So well said!! How i wish that was a virtue for people to possess. Anyways, love the looks especially the last one.

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  5. I can understand what you meant with this writing.
    Love you having here.Complete family:).

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  6. Well said and I couldn't agree more!
    Ur mom does have a great collection of pashminas. I quite loved ur 18th jan look esp. the hearts sweater.

    http://huesofpink.blogspot.com

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  7. yup, facts don't change when people refuse to accept them. so its just better to mentally laugh at their ignorance :D

    the 17th jan look is such a winner!

    www.kavisto.blogspot.com

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  8. Unfortunately most of the time we find ourselves having to deal with such people only... as you said its better to just keep quiet.. no need to prove anything to some random idiot!!!

    15th jan - love the bag! (whatever small part is visible)
    16th jan - the jacket!! the yellow(or gold?) is a nice touch!
    17th jan - very obvious.. the leggings and the bag.. oh oh and the books :D
    18th jan - the hearts sweater.. so cute!
    20th jan - those killer heels!

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  9. your outfits are all so cute, hun! But I adore the heart sweater the most:)

    xx

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  10. I feel strongly about that too. Pity, not much can be done about something like that Tanvii. Still, I hope you fill this trip with loads of lovely memories.

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  11. I agree about the talking. I wish my aunts would think before they speak. They do come up with so much rubbish sometimes!

    Love all your outfits. Looks like you've been wearing gorgeous stuff. I love the first outfit. The dress is really pretty.
    And love the heart sweater you're wearing as well.

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  12. Rightly said...in such cases ignorance is a bliss.Just block such people out..

    Nehoo some really pretty outfits you got there..My favorite being ones worn 15th & 20th Jan! Hope your stay becomes more spicy ;)

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  13. Yay to a drama devoid holiday, though drama is so much fodder for a blog. Would be nice if people thought before they spoke or at least took into consideration who is around them before saying a few things!

    Oh outfit overload. Love them all, but the striped leggings are oh-so-cute!!!! Love them! The Ralph Lauren jumper is so preppy chic, love it. And the heart sweater...oh my love love love!

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  14. Love your last outfit, especially the tights!

    Agreed - some people just don't get it. I try to talk some sense into them but people will just speak without thinking about consequences sometimes.

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  15. The last outfit is by far the best. Those tights look so nice on you.
    Most people in this country speak without a comma and full stop. People ought to come with a switch off button. Hai na?


    purple-peeptoes.blogspot.com

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  16. Nice looks,specially the last.I totally like the color of ur tights!!
    kisses

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  17. So well said,sweetie..I totally get what you mean. Btw: those outfits are so cute! I love them all:) Happy Friday
    Kisses

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  18. So many pretty outfits! I totally agree ... I don't waste my time arguing with people. I like lively discussion with intelligent, well-informed people, but sometimes arguing with someone ignorant is like talking to a wall. I'd rather save my time and energy for something else!

    Leia

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  19. I agree with Leia, it's pointless trying to have a sensible discussion with idiots who think shouting equates with making a valid point. I have the misfortune of having a good friend married to a chermless fool like that and it makes for some ruined evenings especially once alcohol is added to the mix.
    You look glorious in each and every picture, Tanvi. Being amongst your loved ones makes you even more beautiful. xxx

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  20. Well so you do have something to say and you said it very nicely in subtle manner.

    With experience you have learned to be subtle and use words wisely (I can judge that from you blog), a lot of us never learn. My wife gets very ticked when someone says 'she looks ugly because she is dark'...where she can be any random person. My wife's point is even if the person is not present, one should not be blatant and secondly dark is not a good reason and thirdly definition of pretty is vague.

    I agree 'volume' does not mean 'quality'.

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  21. Tell me about it...... I have always noticed this phenomenon back home and maybe even more so in the desi communities here. People just say whatever that comes to their mind, without any regard for who it might be hurting or if it is even appropriate or not.

    But on a much brighter note.....your outfits are fantastic, so much colour...I especially love the one with the blue heart sweater. Really cute.

    Love

    Tashrin - A Toronto based personal style blog

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  22. I seriously love this roundup of your looks for the week - you have such incredible style!! :)

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  23. i love your boldness! and i have those puma shoes!

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  24. you look beautiful in all the pics...my fav is 18th Jan outfit :)

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  25. Nice post Tanvi.."No point in arguing with people who are mentally unequipped to think straight."...How true!! I learned this recently.

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  26. Oohh!! I love these outfits! They are like catnip to me.

    And it's a sign of maturity to realize we don't need to engage dumb people saying dumb things. I'm usually more informed about matters than people I engage in conversation and, when they spout incorrect remarks, I just overlook them. Little is gained through unnecessary confrontation.

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  27. I love the red tights in the last outfit! People who shout their opinions and increase their volume with increasing nonsense really irritate me! I try to limit any interaction with people like that, refuse to get into any discussions with them (as I dont want to be involved in a shouting match) and just ignore them! My time is precious and I will NOT waste on idiots!

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  28. I spy a tintin collection in the background! (what can I say, I'm a design blogger for a reason.) Good to know you didn't face as much hungama, hope the same for my trip too. I'm so done with drama. The spicy stuff? I can't wait to gobble it up! funny thing, i'll sit with a tissue box, tears streaming down, but I'll still eat it. bad huh? :)

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  29. I LOVE LOVE LOVE the outfits from 18th and 20th jan! :) and also adore that marshalls colourful shirt!

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  30. I love ur Ralph Lauren Jumper. its so posh:-)

    When I am in India I pretend I cant hear or talk. People are not only obnoxious but they have this attitude that what they do/wear/eat is the best and we all should follow them!!

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  31. I agree..people usually don't know when to shut up or when to lower their volumes :) But yeah, we learn to deal with it..
    Love the 18th Jan look..and your tight combinations in all the outfits is impeccable :)
    XX
    http://fortheloveoffashionandotherthings.blogspot.com

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  32. Great outfits! I love your Jan. 16 & 18 outfits! I agree about those people who use volumes to get themselves heard and what really irritates me is when they speak nonsense. Which shows they don't think before they speak =/

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  33. Oh well, it sounds like your trip wasn't too stressful this time. ; ) I also hate people who shout you down; I'm reasonably quiet myself and I don't feel like I can compete and get really resentful. Anyway...

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  34. beautiful pics
    yes one should think before talking

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  35. Oh I couldn't agree with you more on this one!

    And love all of the outfits. Gorgeous as usual :)

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  36. I can't decide which outfit I love the most. Those striped tights are pretty awesome, though....

    I can't stand those people you write about...seriously. I usually interrupt them and find that they are never offended by this because they are VERY used to being interrupted!

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  37. Thinking before speaking... Actually, some people do think before they speak, but the un-usual thoughts reflect in the un-usual things that get said.

    And loud people!! ugghhh....Sometimes I feel like putting my hands over my ears right in front of them, but then the considerate side in me stops me!! ;)

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  38. i agree 100%! i hate people who use volume as power, rather than having anything valuable to say!

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  39. Funny story! I like them all, but I love the way you paired the red stockings with the black and white coat. Gotta try that one.

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  40. india sounds fabulous. did you do any shopping? you should post your purchases. xo

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  41. i really like your jan18 photo. enjoy india! :)

    xx
    heyrocketgirl

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  42. The last outfit is groovy- everything about it is perfect. Sounds like India is keeping you busy.

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  43. first and the last look-my favorite ones!!!but anyway u look great!!:)
    xoxoxoxoxo

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  44. I love all of your outfit esp your Jan 18. You inspire me Tanvy :)

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  45. Lovely lovely outfits. My fav is the last one.

    The ones I avoid are the ones with preconceived notion or a big mental block in their head. Why talk, when they have no real intention to listen.

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  46. Thank you for stopping by my blog, I appreciate it.
    I know what you mean about talking loud and not saying nothing.
    I talk a lot but I try to make sure that what I am saying makes sense.
    Think before you speak is a good motto.

    www.bubblingwitheleganceandgrace.com

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  47. The third look is so amazing! I instantly fell in love with the cardigan.

    Kisses, Froso from Style Nirvana

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  48. All of your outfits are so lovely:) I love the green skirt at the end! You're so cute.

    I'm afraid I would be one of the too-loud-obnoxious people you speak of ;) however, it's mostly because I get carried away and forget where I am, less than I want attention. Honestly. When I'm remembering a good story and get excited, I tend to squeal and jump up and down.

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  49. I completely agree with you about LOUD ppl!!I was LMAO when I was reading that!
    I love the first outfit!!! How can you go wrong with leg warmers!!!??

    XX

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  50. I am loving every single bit of the last look. The red tights, the matching clutch, the jacket, everything is just so fabulous!
    And you look gorgeous as ever :)

    http://style-fiesta.blogspot.com/

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  51. I am loving every single bit of the last look. The red tights, the matching clutch, the jacket, everything is just so fabulous!
    And you look gorgeous as ever :)

    http://style-fiesta.blogspot.com/

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  52. Love your bow neck navy dress and little olive skirt. xo style, she wrote

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  53. I'm with you on loud people. THey truly are vexations to the soul.

    Your heart sweater is <3! :)

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  54. Love the second one..Neemrana one and the last one...red tights are awesome!! And about the post...I have too much to say here and I could actually write an essay on it...this topic gets me pretty worked up! ;) Forget knowing when to stop...there are certain things that shouldn't be said at all...but for some reason people don't know where to draw the line!

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  55. amazing sense of dreesing u have tanvii....u r my style ikon!!!!

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