Life's Motto No.165

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I am a very non-curious, non-interfering kind of person. Here's how:


Friend/Family/or/Stranger to me, "You know what? I had tell you something ... (10 second pause) Hmmm ... Oh! Well, never mind ... may be some other time...". My reaction, "O.K." And I am back to doing whatever I was before the 'person' interrupted me and my thoughts! You could never annoy me with such tactics. On some occasions I might even seem unconcerned but I am really just minding-my-own-business. Since I always speak my mind [and when I don't I have a very good reason for it], I assume the same from other people. I am not a mind reader, and I always take people at face value. If you say, you are alright. I would assume you are and not nag you with, "Are you sure?!" If you say you are busy, I would believe you and never taunt you later about it. My Life's Motto [#165] - Live and Let Live! 


But do you think such liberties are returned my way? You guessed right! The answer is No! I do not know why people think giving other people a difficult time, or taunting them about some silly incidences from the past is a great ice-breaker or a conversation starter. Or worse, when people ask inappropriate or personal questions [like when are you going to have a baby!] to prove how close they are to you or how concerned they are about you. So I thought, instead of cribbing about it, I might as well help such 'challenged' people and give them some conversation starters' for future at least:-


1. You can talk about the weather but not for more than a minute
2. Talk about travel or about any recent vacation they might have taken [but do not ask which hotel they stayed in or how much was the room for!]
3. Ask about their work and future plans [but not in so much detail that it startes sounding fishy. And never ask anyone's salary!]
4. Discuss Politics, Entertainment, Sports, Fitness [Here you got your trump card - All-you-can-ask/talk-buffet]
5. If you are not from the same country/culture, you are free to exchange facts and features about it, too! 


These should help you sustain a conversation for at least one meeting. Rest, I am relying on the other party's social skills [:P]. Though I cannot expect every one I meet in my life to have read my blog [and this post!] but I submit this feature as my contribution in Public Interest. 

P.S. The Hairbun pictures are specially for Sheeba! Nothing fancy, just the usual bun-tying-technique ;)
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45 comments

  1. OMG!!!!!!! Simply drooling over those fab shoes!!! :D
    AND I sooooo agree with you......those kind of people really piss me off! (Though I'm a great expressionista & NEVER show my irritation on my face!!) So, I generally steer clear of these always-too-hearty-&-too-curious people... :)

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  2. ur shoes are very interesting and so colorful!! is the flap attached to the shoe??

    Totally nodding my head to ur "Live and let Live motto..Fom what I understand politics generally should not be discussed:-)

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  3. your shoes are FABB !
    and thanks for those convo starter ideas ! i dont like it when people get too personal about work too !

    thanks for stopping by at my blog !
    glisters and blisters

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  4. HA HA HA!!

    Very well said.. maybe we should sign a petition against those kind of people!

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  5. How cute are those shoes??!! Very!!! Like the bun too. Very curious people really tick me off. I am pretty curious too, but when curiousity crosses all limits and turns to plain rudeness it's seriously annoying. Some people don't know personal boundaries and how certain things really shouldn't be asked!

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  6. Love those shoes. They are spectacular!

    I hate people who can't mind their own business. I need to forward this list to my aunts and grandparents. They're always so concerned with how much I get paid etc: it's really annoying.

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  7. Irregular Choice? If so they are possibly the best ones ever! Love the bun, it looks so chic and agree with the conversation choices.
    xxx

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  8. I LOVE your heels, they are great! Have a nice day xoxo

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  9. Those shoes are AMAZING!

    Sooo, when are you planning to have a baby? :P HAHA. I know, personal questions can be really annoying at times, and although I am nosy/curious, I try not to ask them!

    Leia

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  10. hey tanvi, thanks so much fr posting the pic of the bun, it luks pretty neat and cool....
    ur shoes go well with the top and i like the overall luk :))

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  11. hey tanvi, thanks so much fr posting the pic of the bun, it luks pretty neat and cool....
    ur shoes go well with the top and i like the overall luk :))

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  12. hey tanvi, thanks so much fr posting the pic of the bun, it luks pretty neat and cool....
    ur shoes go well with the top and i like the overall luk :))

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  13. Personal Questions and Personal remarks (on ur face) too about what you have in your life and stuff. when U nevr give that kind of autority to anyone. OMG what should I do with these people... ELIMINATE or ERADICATE with BUG SPRAY....

    P.S The most I love is those strings on your neck. V stylish

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  14. Haha! I've heard my sister crib in the same fashion :D
    The shoes are a beauty!
    XX

    http://fortheloveoffashionandotherthings.blogspot.com

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  15. Oh my those shoes are real showstoppers!

    And thanks for the tips, I definitely have to write them down lol:)

    xx

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  16. Those shoes are too fun!

    Ahh trips and work are always good conversation starters, It is interesting though - Chinese people I met have no problem asking salary, how much your engagement ring was or the price you paid for your house!

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  17. LOVE all of your posts, your posts are always FUN FUN FUN, and how cute are your shoes? Swooooooooooooooooonnn

    XOXO
    J

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  18. You're performing a public service with this post.

    And, even better, you're wearing great shoes!

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  19. Those shoes! Wowsie!

    Your list is great---why don't people understand how RUDE it is to talk money? i.e.--"how much do you make". Next time, do a post on exit strategies/how to escape those annoying people!!!

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  20. So right, Tanvi! And you can ALWAYS use your amazing colourful shoes as a conversational icebreaker. Anyone who ignores them is surely not worth your attention!

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  21. so glamour this shoes...I want it!

    http://glamourmarmalade.blogspot.com
    I'd like you visit my blog...if you want, follow me!

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  22. those shoes girl ... i wan wait to get soem irregular choices shoes for ,myself .. just got some shoes from there sister compnay ystday :)
    The Girl Who Loves Colorful Clothes

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  23. LOL on your talk buffet. Nice shoes.

    Nobody's ever asked me how much I make.

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  24. Nice post. I am probably the queen of awkward conversations. I really don't think I'm that awkward, but I am sure I make others feel awkward...because I ask what I want to ask and say what I want to say...but oh my, I would NEVER ask someone what hotel and how much they paid for it! lol

    Also, glad you are on 12. I am too! lol

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  25. Live and let live!! So true.. if *everyone* follows this, most of our problems in life would be over!

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  26. Love the girly shoes! I dislike nosy people that want to know your personal bussiness. Stop trying to figure out my life and focus on your own. I love your tips about how to start a conversation. Tell em Tanvi...

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  27. Great mantra to live by. And wow those shoes!!! I'm seriously loving them. So funky and versatile all at once. - Katy

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  28. Irregular Choice makes the cutest shoes! love them!


    xoxo
    Miss Neira

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  29. I think those shoes would be a fab convo starter! :)

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  30. great shoes !!! and loved all the other pieces too.. and u know what these type of over inquisitive people are really intolerable.. I try hard to not to express my displeasure but at times I just cant and its a relief !!!

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  31. Lovin' your shoes...they are sooo gorgeous! Never seen a pair quite so happy and unique! They look so handmade!
    kisses
    xoThe Beckerman Girls

    http://www.BeckermanBitePlate.com

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  32. great post!!!!! love it. and i agree with you 100%! ;)

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  33. You look gorgeous! And I so agree, just ask people questions about themselves and they will totally be into you! XX!

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  34. I already said I love these shoes! I still do :) About the conversation bit, you know the more I see people around, the more I realise how stunted conversation skills at times are. I think it never stops, first it's when are u getting married, then it's when are u having a baby, either way, people think they're trying to tell u how concerned they are. Though I'd like to believe the people who have real concern wouldn't need to be so nosey. Often when I work with someone new, or when I used to share flats with people, I tell them that I am not going to imagine something is wrong, till they say it. Even though I set this expectation right in the beginning, noone ever adheres to it, and later they get all touchy about things...I am not sure if there is a solution to it, I think I eventually forget about it (though I am not sure they do, but hey! well that's their choice, no?) :)

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  35. love your conversation starters.....some people really need these tips Tanvi! Have a Happy Thanksgiving week. Naina

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  36. the floral shoes...so cute..!
    i do the same with those tacticians...
    "OK"

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  37. the shoes are ti die for Tanvi, and yeah sexy bun!

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  38. Those shoes are crazy!!!! I have to interview you for my blog.

    windowshopz.com

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  39. Love the first pic..awesome expression!! And the bun looks really good!!

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  40. oh i love the truncoat shoes :D n well, just yesterday, i got carried awy n asked a guy how much he makess--- dang!

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  41. Hi Tanvi,
    You sure would be a hell of a fun company for anyone anytime...
    I hope I get the pleasure sometime in this lifetime:-)
    Absolutely loved the shoes...
    N the way they go in perfect accord with the outfit..
    Somebody’s getting more n more stylish by the hour:-)

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